I'm new here, and I posted some of this under my introduction, but I figured it would probably be more appropriate here. I read The Game awhile ago, but it's taken some time for me to get around to putting anything into practice.
I'm 23, got out of a way-too-serious long term relationship about two years ago and have been struggling to get back in the game ever since. I've only had a few drunken hookups since then (2 of the 3, I was blackout drunk for a lot of the night) and can't say I've gotten much satisfaction from any of them. I've been cutting back on my alcohol intake a lot and have been striving to focus on my interactions rather than my beer when I go out.
I've never really felt comfortable talking to many girls and have always struggled with social anxiety, but I've taken some big steps (for me) recently.
I'm starting by make a conscious effort to go out of my way to talk to more people in general. I'm finding the more I talk to people, the easier it becomes. My social perspective is shifting from "What are these people going to think of me?" to something more like, "I'm me, I'm fun, if you don't like that, you can fark off."
Anyways, I'm still a bit nervous about cold-approaches unless I've been stupid drunk, but I'm starting to feel a lot more comfortable Flirting With Girls that I do know when I see them out.
I consider myself a good looking guy, but I've just lacked confidence (growing daily). From what I've read on some of the "schools," I'm probably most interested in the Direct Approach. I have a good sense of humor and feel like I am capable of some Sasha style approaches.
To wrap things up, I'd like to announce that I just got a number on Saturday night, after seeing this girl out twice in the last week. She went to my high school, but of course I never talked to her back then. This girl is beautiful (an 8 in my book). I knew she was a smart girl, but never realized how witty she could be. Whenever, I'd joke and mess with her a bit, she'd give it right back to me.
The only problem is, I can't really see her having sex with me (or anyone) unless we were rather obviously heading into a relationship and I'm not sure if that's what I need right now. Also, I know it sounds premature to say that I really like this girl and I'm definitely wary of one-itis, but I wouldn't even feel comfortable sleeping with her and then forgetting her even if I was sure I could.
I'm still obviously trying to play the field. I was flirting with this other girl I know last night and we occasionally text, so I'm definitely not dangerously hung up on girl #1.
Girl #2 is hotter and I'd definitely want to have sex with her (and other girls!). And she's hardly the relationship type. I'm asking for a little advice if anyone can offer any. Is it reasonable to stay in touch with girl #1, avoid one-itis, and really make an effort to get laid in the meantime and maintain the possibility of a relationship with girl#1?
OR am I just being an idiot?
Any and all advice is welcome.
Thanks in advance.