Here's my current dilemma, and the 3 years I've been in Pick Up...I've never encountered anything like this. Or any advice on how to deal with it.
Since the day she told me about another guy she slept with. I've felt SO AFC.
(We weren't exclusive, she's gone to University, we hadn't seen eachother in 10 weeks...she fucked someone. Told me about it. I forgave.)
But since that day, the scales have tipped in her favour.
I'm the one essentially putting in about 70% of the effort now. She's playing "busy"...yet when it suits her, she will call me to talk. And it will be like we are when we're together. Lovely, comfortable and flirty. Not "friend zone" by any means.
Saw her for the first time in 10 weeks on Friday. We walked our city together. Kissing. Hugging. Affectionate. I met her parents. Saw her new house. Watched her get ready, she kept coming over and kissing me while I waited on her bed. I had to leave.
NOTHING. No text. No "My parents really like you". Not a fucking peep.
She now holds the power. No matter how much I try to play aloof, she doubles the ignoring. But I KNOW she cares about me, and I know she can see a future between us. But I feel like she's fucking gaming me now!?
It's like she's doing Hot and Cold on me. She's push-pulling my emotions like a fucking pro.
I can't seem to see a way of getting my power back. Any power back.
Because now my fear is, if I play it too cool again, she'll do the same thing she did before...fuck another guy.
It's only a week until she's home from college for Christmas. I know she'll want to spend time with me when she's back, because she hasn't got a lot else going on back home.
But this week man, I can feel it being the same as last...a dark, lonely, obsessive place. A place I thought I put behind me.
If I had ZERO knowledge of Game, when I saw her on Friday I would have told her how much I care about her. How much I want her in my life. But I knew that would ultimately eliminate any excitement for her towards me...no more "will we, won't we" which I know girls love at a base level.
My big question now....
HOW DO I GET THAT ATTRACTION BACK!? How do I get her wanting to text me all the time again like she used to!? How do I get her to see me like she used to!??! HOW DO I GET THE POWER BACK OVER LONG DISTANCE.
WHY am I putting in the effort when SHE was the one who fucked up, SHE should be trying to keep me keen and sweet.
Getting angrier by the minute,