Re: What do you expect from a girlfriend?
It is possible that your standards are unrealistic. One of the important things I learned when it came to finding someone was acceptance. You have to learn to accept someone, even the parts that aren't so easy to like. I mean, she has to accept certain things about you right? Or would you want her to completely reshape you to fit her?
I actually dated someone who was addicted to prescription pills because I figured if I could accept her, I could accept anyone. I never ONCE told her to not take them. All I told her that it was her life so it's her choice, BUT not to do it around me. So of course she wants to spend time with me so she didn't.
Wasn't perfect though. After a couple of months of dating we had a two week relationship. So it ended fast. Plus she did sneak a few pills while we were out at a club. Nonetheless I left the relationship feeling good because I no longer wanted to "save" or change my girlfriends. It's about acceptance.
My current LTR is pretty sensitive. She often threatens to break up. I handle it well by brushing it off because I know she is just being emotional. But it does wear on me. She says things that I usually wouldn't put up with. Her emotions can really break away at me like water on a dam. BUT she is ambitious, motivated, affectionate, and thoughtful. She is going for her masters soon, young, no kids, half brazilian, doesn't drink or go to clubs, and comes from a good family. So I can accept those emotional things she has. It's part of the deal basically.
As for trust, you have to first trust yourself. Trust that any issues will come up in time and that you will walk away if it's that bad. Trust yourself to take any red flags you see as serious. Such as constant partying, drinking, drugs, history of abuse or violence. Does she value herself on her accomplishments or is her value based on how much attention she gets? These are things I learned as I went on and I just turned 25. Yes, there are always exceptions, however if you see a few red flags then it's safe to say that things won't get very far. If it's just one issue and you walk out on her so easily then she could've been truly the one you've been searching for...and you just gave up without a fight.
If I had been a girl about it and walked away, like a baby, when my gf said we should part ways then we wouldn't have earned each others trust and progressed. Things are shaky in the beginning especially when feelings first start to come in. It can be scary. You have to push past it and work things out.
I know this was a bit long winded and there's still more to say, but I wanted to give out as much as I could and let you know to never give up hope.
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