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    Default Old friend-zone, can we fix it?

    Back in high school i met this 10, perfect in every way - a bit shy and airheaded but that was fine with me. I ended up getting lvl 10,000 friend zoned and we became best friends. We ended up having an odd relationship. We cuddled often, we made out occasionally but we weren't a couple. She teased me all the time and it drove me crazy. I fell in love with her and essentially ruined everything. In hindsight i believe she loved me too, i just didn't have enough confidence in myself to get her. The last day we hung out i believe i ended things with a "fark you" and she cried.

    This was 3 years ago... Since then i've gotten laid by many times(once with her best friend), dated around, found a gf, started my life. Over the years i'd seen her maybe once or twice, i've apologized for falling in love with her(hoping to guilt trip her) and she simply said that i didn't have to be sorry.

    I saw on facebook a couple of weeks ago that her 2 year long relationship just ended. I contacted her on new years saying i missed the old days and i wanted to hang out... She gave me her number and i've been texting her. I think i'm ready to hook this one, even if i have to break up with my gf to do so. I have alot going for me these days and i know that im a catch.

    Do you guys have any tips on getting her? Take it slow? Take it fast? Should i be flirty? Distant? What approach should i take??? I wanna show her that i'm a new man now and at the same time i want to renew our old love and get that spark back. I would love to have a relationship with her and i also wouldn't mind finally farking her, do i need to decide what i want with her yet?
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    Default Re: Old friend-zone, can we fix it?

    Sorry for the double post but i just have to emphasize... I'm only gonna get one more chance with her and i dont wanna screw it up, so i'm putting this one in your guys' capable hands.
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    Default Re: Old friend-zone, can we fix it?

    Well use pre selection. Thats my method. Tell her your past about your last relationships and sexual partners but in a subtle way. Use DHVs

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    Default Re: Old friend-zone, can we fix it?

    I have the same problem I like this one girl but for some reason after I told her that i liked her things just got weird and we dont talk or hangout like we used to anymore. We set up to go out but when its time she backs up so I just dont call her anymore I see her pass by and we say hi but thats as far as it gets I gess she wasnt really all into me after all is her lost so I think.

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    Default Re: Old friend-zone, can we fix it?

    Well seeing as you guys have both grown in the years that you guys lost touch, the results may be significantly different. This may be a reset to bigger better things or it is maybe even possible the spark is no longer there.

    If you think this is the one chance you have with her and you do not want to screw it up, your Mindset will lead you into the same hole you came from.

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    Default Re: Old friend-zone, can we fix it?

    I believe this Mindset is crucial for not making the same mistakes. Last time my problem was that at the very beginning she said there was no way i had any chance with her and i accepted that and then... down the road, when she was giving me very strong but indirect signals (ioi's), i couldn't believe or convince myself that i had a chance because i had already accepted that i didnt. that doubt in the back of my mind kept me from telling her how i felt. if i would have just manned up and asked her out or some shit, i would have easily gotten her. i remember some very direct things that she said that i couldn't quite believe at the time (and i'd never think of something to say or do at the time) like:
    Me: "what's your type anyways?"
    HB10: "you're my type"

    It's a damn shame that men always have to make the first moves and have to say how they feel first. It would have been so facking easy if she coulda just straight up said "i like you, i really wanna date you and i love you too", that would have saved me from alot of suffering.
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    Default Re: Old friend-zone, can we fix it?

    Quote Originally Posted by kching View Post
    Well seeing as you guys have both grown in the years that you guys lost touch, the results may be significantly different. This may be a reset to bigger better things or it is maybe even possible the spark is no longer there.

    If you think this is the one chance you have with her and you do not want to screw it up, your Mindset will lead you into the same hole you came from.
    also um this was my plan. distance myself from her, get experience in the field and then come back years later as a new man. i've fulfilled all of the criteria, however, i still haven't exactly came back. i got her number but i never tried making conversation with her (because up until yesterday, i had a girl friend...) or trying to meet up with her. And now that the time has come, i'm doubting if i have what it takes to hook a girl like her.
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    Default Re: Old friend-zone, can we fix it?

    The number one reason why guys get into a friend zone is simple: They don't elicit enough sexual energy or in other words they act like friends so eventually they become friends.

    You need to show where you aim at from beginning with confidence, teasing, being direct, flirt and so on.
    Don't BE HER FRIEND and NEVER let her think you can be friends. She must know you can be her lover and someone who can rock her world.

    If you were once in the friendzone, it needs time to have a chance again and you have to build yourself as a men, alpha men and a leader. Inner game, body language, good lifestyle = she will feel attracted to you eventually.

    Good luck

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    Default Re: Old friend-zone, can we fix it?

    (Lol, nickthetool beat me to it)

    Well man, I'm going to make this short cause I'm in a hurry.

    Understand why you were put in the friend zone to begin with. At it's very root and core, the reason people get friend zoned is because your female friend isn't sexually attracted to you (there was an article I read a while ago that said that x amount of women were interviewed about their male friends, and they almost unanimously said they were not sexually attracted to them). At any core there needs to be some kind of sexual attraction, no matter how much your personality matches.

    Long story short, pick whatever method you want, but you have to keep sexual Tension.

    (Not to mention that if you find yourself friend zone'd again, there are numerous sources out there about how to take yourself out of the friend zone)

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    Default Re: Old friend-zone, can we fix it?

    I ha've a question about the friend zone I always end up landing in that zone with the girls I meet I have the getting the number down I pretty much get their phone number but I try treating them like shes one of my guys friends so she won't think that am trying to get with her doing negs and all but after a few days or weeks I finish in the friend zone how can I get pass that


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