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Thread: to next or not to next (open relations)

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    Default to next or not to next (open relations)

    Im gaming a girl now, lets call her 7. I want a stable trusting relationship and to a large extent so does 7. We get on well, compatable ect. Ect. But recently 7 drops not a bombshell but maybe more a warning sign.
    She tells me that;

    " like being honest if I was totally in love and married n stuff I wudnt have a problem wiv my guy kissing another women or even more as long I was there aswel but it wud have to work both ways haha"

    Now when i call her on it OF COURSE she backtracks and says ah well i meant that ive been cheated on in the past so id rather just know than have it happening in secret.this is BS, she wouldnt mind an open relationship-not my bag.

    Aside from this she has been a very good candidate for a relationship super invested, hard to get at first, introvert, been in a relation ship for 3 years (open or closed i dont know), SO i ended the conversation quickly and froze her out. She gets that im not happy

    Do i unfreeze and set definate boundries early on, knowning full well that doing so might get me burned, or do i leave as is and next

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    Default Re: to next or not to next (open relations)

    Thanks for the varied and intricate responses dudes, its good to know help is on hand in these situations.

    For the record i f-closed then nexted.

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    Default Re: to next or not to next (open relations)

    My apologies for no one replying to your post after so many views.

    I think you did the right thing. Whether sleeping with her was a good idea will show in time. But she seems like the controlling type since she's willing to sacrifice standards for false security.

    She thinks if she is open about that stuff then she can prevent cheating. Her views are misguided and immature so you don't want that. It's no better than a parent doing drugs with their children just so they know their home safe when doing it and not out there.
    "All things are subject to interpretation. Whichever interpretation prevails at a given time is a function of power and not truth."


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