Top 10 Stats
Latest Posts Loading... Loading...
Loading...
Loading...
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
Loading...
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 

Page 2 of 2 FirstFirst 12
Results 11 to 13 of 13
Like Tree1Likes

Thread: Possible to get a gf if I'm a loner?

  1. #11
    ConnorMaxwell72 is offline PUA in Training
    Points: 585, Level: 11
    Level completed: 70%, Points required for next Level: 15
    Overall activity: 99.0%
    Achievements:
    7 days registered500 Experience Points
    Join Date
    Dec 2012
    Location
    New York, NY
    Posts
    74
    Points
    585
    Level
    11
    Thanks
    3
    Thanked 1 Time in 1 Post
    Rep Power
    30

    Default Re: Possible to get a gf if I'm a loner?

    There's a lot to say about this actually.

    1) A social life is a must -- some kind of social interaction with people... anything. Even if you're a part of some small-end/not very popularized club on campus, it's something that displays some sort of social value. Fact is, all PUA theory and practice aside, if you're not actually out there, meeting people and interacting with people... how do you expect to even meet a girl who'll entertain the idea of being your girlfriend?

    Name of the game at this point is displaying social value.

    2) Once you have a social life or circle you're apart of -- it's about leadership (or what PUA call being "alpha"). You don't need to be captain of the rugby team or dance squad (hey man, what ever you're into). Women are genetically hardwired to find the "alpha" or the "leader of the pack". Why? Because to their cave-women genetically programmed side they're always going to look for the strongest one who can take care of them and provide for them. So if you're the social outcast and not a "leader", you're displaying qualities that are unattractive. No girl really goes for the outcast (aka the sick gazelle at the outskirts of the heard).

    Listen, there's nothing wrong with being a strong introvert who's independent and likes doing your own thing. That's actually really great! I'm the same way. Women love that in men. The difference is that you want to be the kind of guy people will want to follow. Be the guy who makes the plans with your friends, be the guy who people want to do whatever you're doing. Most importantly, be consistent with your decisions. If people don't want to do your plans, that's ok! Still say "alright, I'm doing it anyway" and actually follow through. Those are qualities that exemplify the leadership aspects that women love.

    In short, have a social life and being the leader of your social circle. Be the guy everyone wants to be around, but not the guy who needs people to validate who he is.

    You could troll this forum and learn all these techniques and strategies to pick up girls and bring them into your life, but I think you'll find that you're going to only attract certain types of women. Practicing what I said and you will see that interesting, genuine, and positive women will be drawn into your life with no manipulation. Aka, women you'll actually want to have around for a long time.

    I'll also add, that in my case, I built my social circle from scratch. It takes time, there's no quick "here's how to get a girlfriend" (that's worth while at least).

    Hope this helps (and sorry if it seems preachy, I know other people will read this as well),

    CM72

  2. #12
    ED11356's Avatar
    ED11356 is offline Aspiring PUA
    Points: 940, Level: 17
    Level completed: 40%, Points required for next Level: 60
    Overall activity: 0%
    Achievements:
    7 days registered500 Experience Points
    Join Date
    Oct 2012
    Location
    Queens, New York
    Posts
    235
    Points
    940
    Level
    17
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts
    Rep Power
    55

    Default Re: Possible to get a gf if I'm a loner?

    Quote Originally Posted by Afterlife View Post
    To overcome a fear of rejection, develop an even stronger fear of regret.
    Very, very true. Lol (30 characters)

  3. #13
    ConnorMaxwell72 is offline PUA in Training
    Points: 585, Level: 11
    Level completed: 70%, Points required for next Level: 15
    Overall activity: 99.0%
    Achievements:
    7 days registered500 Experience Points
    Join Date
    Dec 2012
    Location
    New York, NY
    Posts
    74
    Points
    585
    Level
    11
    Thanks
    3
    Thanked 1 Time in 1 Post
    Rep Power
    30

    Default Re: Possible to get a gf if I'm a loner?

    Quote Originally Posted by bljohnson11 View Post
    thanks for all the advice I think my real problem is getting nervous when meeting girls I think i have a panic disorder because I'll meet a girl off an online dating website and I'm like a deer in a headlight its the same thing in job interviews it really sucks.
    I missed this post. It's all about the mentality of "omg, I have attention, what next?", and I imagine you start spiraling down this stair case of over thinking. My best advice, go to a hang out (bar, or whatever) and just say hi to a girl. The outcome is irrelevant, don't worry about it. Even if she says "get the hell away from me", heck -- it's not the nicest thing she could say, but reward yourself in the fact that you spoke to a girl. Regardless of the outcome. This will boost your confidence, and the rest will come.

    CM72


Page 2 of 2 FirstFirst 12

Similar Threads

  1. Feeling Alien, Complete Loner
    By SpinYourMarbles in forum New Member Introductions
    Replies: 4
    Last Thread: 12-20-2012, 07:26 AM

Bookmarks

Posting Permissions

  • You may not post new threads
  • You may not post replies
  • You may not post attachments
  • You may not edit your posts
  •  
DMCA.com