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    Default Getting girl that "Like little sister"

    I have a very unique situation. I am after a girl that I probably shouldn't be, due to age, but I unintentionally kinda slipped into this, and now am determined its right, but just needs work. I've known her a while and I am very good friends with her mother, who always says how when we are older she hopes we end up together. When I joined the military, I didn't see her for years, and when I got back she had grown into a beautiful young woman, and we became very close and now I am willing do anything to get her attention. I know I can NOT let her know that, but I am already Friend Zoned a little and give her rides everywhere, and talk about her life, which I am very involved in. I takes everything I have not to hold her hand.

    She always gives me flirty smiles, sit closely, leans in, and looks at my lips when we have close conversations, but I have never really had any serious chances to make a move. She hugs me closely all the time, and loves when I rub her back. We have now been this close for about 5 or 6 months, and keep getting closer, but I am not sure where it is going, and how (if possible) to get it in the direction I want. It is difficult with the big age difference and seems weird at times, but I truly think there is something special here and I know I will treat her better than anyone.

    I know I kind of sound like a sissy, but i am willing to do whatever it takes, for however long it takes. I came out of a 3 year relationship not too long ago that didn't have nearly as strong of an attraction.

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    Default Re: Getting girl that "Like little sister"

    studies show that relationships work the best when the man is older that the woman by a few years, five is actually the ideal number. i dont think you sound like a sissy at all, and as long as were clear that you cant let her see that you will bend over backwards for her than we can get down to business.

    first of all i just wanna disclose that ive been down this road with a girl ive know since her birth, and it doesnt end well, the reason being that if it ends at all, you just tore up a lot of rally close relationships. that being said, you can imagine how being in a relationship with this hanging over your head can make people feel inclined to stay in the relationship no matter how bad it gets, which doesnt bode well for either of you mentally in the long run.

    also, the fact that shes only seventeen as of right now makes me wanna suggest that however you plan on getting her, probably plan it out so you end up dating after she turns eighteen. i know consent may be sixteen there but eighteen is the ideal age in most countries for a reason, not to mention giving yourself some time to turn this in the direction you want to go may be helpful.

    what i would do: now keep in mind this is me were talking about here; just as i wasnt telling you not to date her, im also not telling you that this is what you have to do. just something to to think about and use as you see fitting because i dont know the girl, i dont know you or how exactly you are when your with each other. the only thing i have to go on is your paragraph.

    i would flirt, maybe raise sexual Tension a little bit at a time over the course of the next three months. develop a little Kino in the beginning and build on it as you see fit depending on how she reacts. sort of a long term Kino Escalation if you will. now heres something i would try that i would only suggest to somebody in a situation like yours. try not to use any time bridges. stay away from anything that reminds her how long youve known each other. the reason i say this is because your trying to get out of the friemds zone and that is really hard to do when all she sees is how long youve been friends and how good of a friend you are. the reason i said you should kino and build sexual tension a little bit at a time over the next three months is because when youve been friends with a girl for a long time and you start getting more physical, it gets awkward really quick. we want to avoid that by doing it slowly and surely so hopefully it doesnt get awkward. ill post more if anything else comes to me but i gotta pass out. will get back soon tho
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    Navy416 is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default Re: Getting girl that "Like little sister"

    We were not THAT close as kids, we just knew eachother. Now we are very close, and I want to be closer. She doesn't show a whole lots of IOIs, until the right moment when she gives me a certain look and smile and keeps switching between looking at my eyes and lips and biting her own lip. This happens only occasionally, and I have never used it as the right opportunity. I do use Kino often though, like putting my hand on her back and whatnot, plus a lot of other forms. She doesn't seem to mind unless she is in a mood, and cares way less when nobody is around.

    Sometimes she gets really comfortable and rests her head on my shoulder or has me rub her back, but then out of nowhere, asks me to stop and avoids me for a while. She texts me smiley faces all the time and typical teenage girl stuff, but sometimes will just stop responding.

    I should have mentioned, she does have a boyfriend, who is 18 and has only been around a couple months. I know he won't last, and I will be around a lot longer and treat her better. I have never felt so desperate for anybody's attention. Please help!

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    Default Re: Getting girl that "Like little sister"

    well if your right about the bf, then it will fit perfectly into the three month plan i described because as you gain ground, he will become less valuable. also, ive noticed sometimes girls bite their lips when theyre thinking about something other than what your talking about and they kinda do it to stop thinking about it. its hard to explain. next time she gives you an ioi like the flirty smile you described, look at her pupils and see if theyre fully dialated. this happens when people are attracted to something.

    also, next time she asks you to rub her back or something of the sort, do a Roll Off before she has a chance to stop you. simply say "thats all you get, maybe if your good youll get more later." that is a great line because its not only a roll off but it also incorporates my friend linkings reward system that ive found to be highly effective.

    also im thinking you should do more research on IOIs because shes got to be showing more that your missing.
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    Default Re: Getting girl that "Like little sister"

    I drive her home from school almost every day. What can i do in the car during this time to build attraction? I cant really reach over and grab her hand or anything. I started one one by teaching her how to shift my car by putting my hand on hers and going through the gears while driving. I also let her reach over and steer sometimes to get a little closer. She has a lot of fun doing this, i just hope its not a big brother thing.

    She also likes to invite friends out with us (particularly her best friend and her little brothers) gets awkward, so im okay with it, but how can i get her alone without it seeming weird. I think i really have to make it look like it was an accident and we just kind of fell for each other, because it may weird her out if she realizes im up to something.

    I planned to teach her how to ice skate yesterday, but the skates didnt fit, so we played with hockeys sticks in our shoes and did a little playful flirting. I lost another opportunity for more Kino, but we still had a good time.

    Next we are going to a concert, daughtry if that makes a difference, in 2 weeks. How can i build up to this, and how do i act during without pushing her away? He sings a lot of love songs that we always sing to each other in the car and just goof off. Is this not alpha enough? It makes het laugh and smile, but im not sure if it builds attraction
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    Default Re: Getting girl that "Like little sister"

    Any more input on this? I have been trying a few things and they seem to be going well. Last night we were playing a game on my phone and every time she would get comfortable and rest her head on me, I would move away a few inches, or get up and ask her if she would like a drink or something. Later, I was rubbing her back again a planned on doing a Roll Off, but i got suckered into sitting with her for a good half hour. The flirty smile and looking at my lips keep happening often, but I haven't looked at her pupils yet.

    From what you hear, does she seem interested? or is it possible she is just comfortable with me and I've been friend zoned?

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    Default Re: Getting girl that "Like little sister"

    The Roll Off on the back rub isnt really crucial as long as she doesnt do that avoiding you sht afterwards.

    i really dont have much to tell ya other than what i already have man. im super busy so sorry i hadnt replied. sounds like youve got it under control though.
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