I have been doing some thinking and trying to draw some conclusions based on experience. At least for me, pickup hasn't actually served me well as far as long term relationships or any relationships go for that matter. Is trying to seduce and sexually escalate quickly compatible with a relationship frame of mind? It seems like things develop much more slowly for people who are in relationships, meaning that sex does not come quickly. I met a girl at a night venue, things got heated quickly, we tried to date, but she never really developed feelings for me. If, on the other hand, sex came later, I feel that things would have worked out better. I'm good at getting ONS, but not true relationships. What do you guys think?