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    aeromyth is offline PUA in Training
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    Default Need some urgent advice! Thx

    Hey guys,

    So, I had a blast last night I went with a group of friends to some latin music bar and I met a really nice HB (and I realised on the same occasion that I should never refuse to go to a party or to a club when invited as I never know who I am gonna meet).

    She was easily an 8 and she came with 3 dudes. It didn't seem that any of them was her boyfriend as they were a bit distant and cold. It was such a waste and I reasonably thought that I had my chances with her.

    My group was literally next to hers and there were a few girls with us too, so we were fooling around, dancing, laughing loudly, etc. At some point, I noticed that I had caught her attention as she was looking at me. All that remained for me was to talk to her.

    I knew exactly how to open her but I was looking for the right opportunity (I was basically waiting for a pause in her discussion with the dudes she was accompanying). And then the most unexpected happened! She approached me herself and asked me if we hadn't met before Lol, that spared me the effort of approaching her.

    We had a really nice discussion, we laughed, we introduced each other's friends, etc. And then, she even asked for my phone before I had the time to do so (she used an excuse like: "Listen, I don't want you to get this the wrong way, but maybe we could exchange our phone numbers and have a drink sometime?"). And then we each rejoined our own groups (I even got thumbs up from everyone, lol).

    Ok, everything went fine, she apparently digs me but the real game starts now. As I am still a novice when it comes to dating complete strangers (all my previous dates shared common acquaintances with me, so it was easier), I wonder how I should proceed.

    I definitely shouldn't wait too long before writing her (I have already experienced the "interest wanes with time" thing) but I don't want to appear too eager either. Is meeting her on Sunday (tomorrow) too soon? If not, do you think I should already text her this afternoon, or should I wait until Sunday morning to arrange for a meeting later in the evening?

    I also have to think of a nice place for a first date. Some trendy cafe maybe... I think bowling is too much for someone I just met (maybe for a second date).

    Thanks in the advance for any advice you might have, guys! Any other suggestions are also welcome

    Cheers

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    aeromyth is offline PUA in Training
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    Default Re: Need some urgent advice! Thx

    Ok, I managed to get my PUA friend on the phone and he told me to not meet her on Sunday as it would be too much, but he advised me to write to her today suggesting to meet her for drinks sometime in the week. Sounds fair to me.

    To be continued...

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    Default Re: Need some urgent advice! Thx

    I usually text the following day, something like, "It was really nice to meet you...I enjoyed meeting you...(or) you seem...etc., let's hang out soon!"

    If she's really interested she'll text back indicating interest and when she's got some free time.

    I usually like to do coffee or drinks for the first date since it's casual. Dinner or something seems too high pressure to me, besides, if you time it right and it's going well you can always transition to dinner, lunch or whatever. Also, taking charge, suggesting a nice dinner spot within walking distance and walking her there is golden.
    Last edited by Slater; 02-18-2013 at 11:52 PM. Reason: grammer

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    aeromyth is offline PUA in Training
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    Default Re: Need some urgent advice! Thx

    Haha, it seems I totally screwed up. I should have read the guides before doing anything stupid.

    Everyone in my group insisted that I text her the next day. And so I relunctantly did and she hasn't replied to this day, lol. Looking at my sms again, I realize it was boring and unoriginal (hey, how is it going, it was nice meeting you last night. the band was pretty good. How about meeting for some drinks next week?). It couldn't get any lamer...

    That's what you get from listening to others and not even putting some thought in what you write. Damn, and she looked pretty decent...I deleted her number today (it's not much but it made me feel a bit better, lol).

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    Default Re: Need some urgent advice! Thx

    Quote Originally Posted by aeromyth View Post
    Haha, it seems I totally screwed up. I should have read the guides before doing anything stupid.

    Everyone in my group insisted that I text her the next day. And so I relunctantly did and she hasn't replied to this day, lol. Looking at my sms again, I realize it was boring and unoriginal (hey, how is it going, it was nice meeting you last night. the band was pretty good. How about meeting for some drinks next week?). It couldn't get any lamer...

    That's what you get from listening to others and not even putting some thought in what you write. Damn, and she looked pretty decent...I deleted her number today (it's not much but it made me feel a bit better, lol).
    I always find it interesting when someone uses that re-initiation text and if she doesn't respond it's interpreted as an automatic failed text and if she does it's a win. It's almost like the text itself doesn't even matter.

    I think what's more important is the interaction you had before texting and what time of the day you text her. She could just be busy. Plenty of times women will look at their text messages, have every intention of responding, but then forget because they got distracted. They have busy lives which means a good rule of thumb is to text her close to her bedtime. Around 9pm average. She's not that busy and you'll be the last person she talks to. Texting her in the middle of the day is just asking for rejection.
    "All things are subject to interpretation. Whichever interpretation prevails at a given time is a function of power and not truth."

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    Default Re: Need some urgent advice! Thx

    If you ask her out do it directly, not through texting . Call her in a day or 2 and show persistence ! that is if you remember the number .

    my opinion

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    Default Re: Need some urgent advice! Thx

    It's too late to reinitiate contact anyway as I don't have her number anymore
    And second mistake: my friends insisted that I send the text on Saturday around 5 pm, which I also relunctantly did. I would have never proceeded that way but my friends were putting so much pressure on me that I gave in.
    Well, the point is to learn from my mistakes at least.

    The weird part is that things seemed to go quite well when we met and she's the one who approached me and even asked for my number. Then again, these are the girls I should be the most careful with (ya know, the players).
    Another thing, I work for a big organisation, which might be a bit intimidating for your average girl (I have experienced that a couple of times).

    I will never know what truly happened but the only thing I regret is giving her my business card (as she wanted to do an internship at my organisation). Man, I just hope she doesn't show it around as a trophy...


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