Been on two dates but been consigned to the FriendZone.
First date, seemed perfect, we chatted well, I hugged her when I met her, and we had a lot of eye contact and she mirrored my body language. On the first date we made plans for a second date, so I thought we were there. My major problem was, i think, a lack of kino. we had the hug but that was it! yes, i know it was a mistake but then I've been on first dates that had no kino but which ended with a second date. We had been out for dinner and so harder to kino whilst sat there at dinner across from each other.
The day after she text me letting me know that she'd thought about me a lot but that I was like an old friend that she could chat to about anything.
Second 'date', I tried to do all the things that I failed with on the first date. I wanted to kiss her but given that she had told me we were friends when we were actually out, it seemed pointless ending the night by trying to kiss her. I tried building kino but the way I see it, if I'm in the friend zone, the kino will build too slowly and this won't make a difference. When we had the chat, I probably made a further mistake as I complimented on attributes that a friend would notice, about her character and nothing sexual.
Everything seems to be right in terms of I'm not always agreeing with her, we're having banter, we have a lot of eye contact and it feels like there's ioi but..she keeps on about friend zone and apologises for this being so.
I have a date with another woman, arranged before my first date with this one.
Should I tell her that I have another date lined up?
We seem good, connect but the spark somehow needs to be generated.
I'm half considering just writing her a text, telling her that I think we would be great together but as she only wants friendship, perhaps we are best going our own ways. I would write it as if I had made my decision, instead of as an ultimatum. I guess I want her to think of losing me completely or us dating.
I know it's early days but I get hooked too quick. I also wonder whether her attitude has anything to go with my reputation as people say that I used to be a bad boy and that I used to have flings. If there is a trust issue. And really, it's not true, it was created when I used a tactic to create more mystery and more edge.
Finally, when we went our own ways, I told her that I had one word for her at the end. She wanted to know what it was. I said 'see you later' but in a different language, a language that we were talking about. She seemed a bit disappointed and asked whether that was it. I'm wondering what she actually wanted. Does she want me to make the move out of friend zone by kissing her? Is it a form of shit test?
As we were out for a long time and it was me that decided we should leave. I felt as if she would have stayed longer if I'd wanted to.