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    Perez91 is offline PUA in Training
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    Default Got out of F-zone, want her to be my gf

    Here is a quick version of the story:

    I met this girl 6 months ago. We had all our graduate classes together etc. We began hanging out a lot, I asked her out she rejected me. I continued to be her "best friend" (very BETA). Then in December I escalated and we fooled around, etc., we slept over at each others places (no sex), and when we were drunk I kissed her 2 times, I also committed a major mistake and revealed my feelings. Meanwhile she made out with 3 other guys and hooked up with one guy on a first date.

    In January I went NC for two weeks after ending our relationship by making out with her. We began to talk again after that but I began to act ALPHA, negging her, flirting, pursuing other girls. We got closer than ever after that, we held hands numerous times, cuddled, and I went back to fooling around. Then last Wednesday, I kinoed her and then escalated and she let me have the opportunity to F-Close. However, I could not F-close because of performance anxiety.

    Problem: While she seemed very interested in me during the weekend (texting me pics, saying she loves me), come Sunday she began acting different. She hasn't texted me, although on Monday we kissed in school (she left a book in my car so I teased her with it until we kissed). Our interactions have also been lacking compared to how they were when we were "best/close friends."

    Question: I want her to be my gf but I don't know how to proceed. After the sexual encounter I feel like she has me in the palm of her hands. I've been worried about other guys that are also pursuing here. (Slipping back into BETA attitude) Why is she being distant, how can I get her to chase me again.

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    Default Re: Got out of F-zone, want her to be my gf

    I know the frustration! I've been there plenty of times too.

    Check out this thread on "How to make her chase YOU".

    The same principal works whether you just met a girl, or if you've been with her for a while.


    Need one on one private coaching? PM me for details.

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    Perez91 is offline PUA in Training
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    Default Re: Got out of F-zone, want her to be my gf

    Thanks T-Mal. I tried this method again for the past two weeks. (First time was what led to the escalation and eventual hookup) However, now she isn't biting back. I don't know what happened to be honest.

    After we hooked up, she was sending me pic texts of her all the time, telling me she loved me etc. Then she went away for the weekend to hang out with some friends and came back cold. I tried to ignore her a bit, although I kissed her a few times (in private, since we are just friends). Then again we went on spring break. She was suppose to come visit me in NY but the plan fell through because she didn't have "money." During the week, she only texted me once, and then did not initiate again. I texted the other two times.

    Today I saw her and she was a bit distant, I have been acting normally as if nothing. Later I saw her with a guy I know she likes and sat next to them. However, she was paying more attention to him than to me.

    Any idea of how to proceed? I don't understand how she can go from basically being after me and being all lovey dovey to acting distant, not texting me, and then hanging out with this dude (he's a BETA).

    People have told me everything from forget her and forget the friendship to ignore her and wait for her to come back, f-close her properly, and move on.


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