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    Default First date, friendzone? Taking it slow?

    Hello gents, so we had our first date last night, she came to my house, we went out for coffee and came back to my house drank our coffees and played some pool. Had a fun time, pretty good conversation the whole evening and towards the end of the evening we chillen on the couch and watched TV. When we sat down together she put her purse in between us so I couldn’t get closer to her which kinda threw me off, also there was very little physical contact all night, which was all initiated by me. I walked her to her car she gave me a hug and I went inside. She text me later that night saying she had a good time and she is always down to play some pool. I know she got out of a long relationship somewhat recently, so I'm trying to figure out if she is just taking it slow...which is fine, or friend zoning me..
    Thoughts, opinions?

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    Default Re: First date, friendzone? Taking it slow?

    Hey boss!!!
    My humil opinion is that she send an IOD and a ioi. The first one was to put. something between you and her when the tv moment. Coincidence? A act of shyness? Who knows...the other one was the late text, that is for me a good signal. If was me, i will "ignore" her a few days, and then being casuall, i will take her for another date. Then your main goal is to increase the 'tension", until that no return point u will know if u are being friendzoned or not. This doesn't mean that u need to go berserker jaja but play a little bit more hard and risky. Remember you are the prize here!!

    Hope i could help camarada

    Salut

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    Default Re: First date, friendzone? Taking it slow?

    I am the prize here! ha I like that, now I just need to convince her of that fact!

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    Default Re: First date, friendzone? Taking it slow?

    Quote Originally Posted by RussellJ View Post
    I am the prize here! ha I like that, now I just need to convince her of that fact!
    This....Fall back a bit on your contact/intensity. Let the engine speed decrease a bit and see if she reacts and wants to get together.See if she will do some work on her end.

    Got to build up some type of sexual Tension to differ you out of that friendzone...stir up the hornets nest.

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    Default Re: First date, friendzone? Taking it slow?

    i agree with puas before me but i think the girl was attracted to you but something faltered somewhere.she said she is ready to always play pool which meant she was disappointed you failed to escalate and probably found that unattractive, even though you were on some level.

    definitely as said some sexual Tension will be fine.don't forget to imply or hint with a dhv story that you are not all about pool or one thing.this will intrigue her and make her open to giving you another chance,also quickly killing that perception fast(which is important)



    if you want detail explanation of what to do we could talk.i've being there

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    Default Re: First date, friendzone? Taking it slow?

    Forgot to comment about that couch business.

    Its depending on your comfort level with her. I know ive been on "opposite" couches then within minutes , like magnets, the personal space barrier gets broken. I think in my above mentioned case where things were cold/shy at first, started opposite side of room then within an hour no space between us, then thereafter cuddling under a blanket on the love seat.

    I always keep in mind in these cases when things are fresh/new to just run smooth and progress naturally not by force. Be cool and dont act the stereotypical "we're trying to date' we should be on each other. ...or ticking down the checklist "Ok lean to the left, put out arm, slowly inch closer to her".If you want to run anything try some type of technique to reel them in closer, then as well dont flinch when moment by moment she slowly inches closer and is putting The Vibe of comfort.

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    Default Re: First date, friendzone? Taking it slow?

    Honestly men, I this chick is messed up... I asked her to kick it again this past weekend and she made up some lame excuse and I called her out on it and we pretty much havent spoken since. She's posting things on Facebook reminding her of her Ex, and not in a good way. I donno, I think its over with this one....Onnnnn to the next one. (i dont wanna give up, but the chick is totally unreceptive at this point, im guessing its all about letting things run their course, we have mututal friends so we will see each other even if its on an inconsistant basis, and in which case ill try again i suppose.) But why would I want to kick it with someone that doesnt want to kick it with me ya feel me?

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    Default Re: First date, friendzone? Taking it slow?

    I know I could easily sleep with her friend, but so had half the town I live in, which she (the chick im interested in) even mentioned. SO basically I dont know what the hell to do....I hate giving up ANY suggestions?

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    Default Re: First date, friendzone? Taking it slow?

    Quote Originally Posted by RussellJ View Post
    Honestly men, I this chick is messed up... I asked her to kick it again this past weekend and she made up some lame excuse and I called her out on it and we pretty much havent spoken since. She's posting things on Facebook reminding her of her Ex, and not in a good way. I donno, I think its over with this one....Onnnnn to the next one. (i dont wanna give up, but the chick is totally unreceptive at this point, im guessing its all about letting things run their course, we have mututal friends so we will see each other even if its on an inconsistant basis, and in which case ill try again i suppose.) But why would I want to kick it with someone that doesnt want to kick it with me ya feel me?
    I feel ya bro.....

    She may be caught up in the past. Any of them that still talk about their ex and such is a no-no to me.

    Especially if shes posting stuff public on facebook. Just think if you did make it with her and something happens that could be yourself being posted about on facebook, goodbye rep LOL

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    Default Re: First date, friendzone? Taking it slow?

    Let her go, or even better, give her the "I think we should be friends" speech before she gives it to you. You may be able to use her to get to her hot friends


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