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    coolbreeze is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default I ruined my chance... can I get this girl even though she has a bf

    Hey guys so I could really use some advice on this girl who I was involved with for a while last semester. This is the second time this has happened to me but we were f-buddies even though she had a boyfriend (same as last time, this new girl didnt tell me). She ended up dumping him for me and I kind of ruined my chance because I pushed her too far away. Our mutual friends all kind of hate me because they feel like I ruined her relationship and didnt care even though I did. I didnt know if I could pull the trigger and actually date her because I didnt want to have to go through all of the bs of worrying if I could trust her (as I had to do with the previous girl that this happened with. If she'll cheat with you, she'll cheat on you). But it turns out that I still do care about her... but before I could ask her out, she started dating another guy. I cut contact with her for a month and she and I and our friends went on holiday in rome two weeks ago and this is where I really farked up bad. I got black out drunk most of the nights we were there because she wouldnt shut up about her bf. I was aggressive and verbally abusive towards her and we basically went the entire week trying to make each other as bitter/jealous/angry as possible. When she would talk about her boyfriend I would bring up the girl I was bringing home from the bar the other night. Yes it was childish but thats just the way it happened because of my drinking. I found out from her best friend however that she was retaliating to the same extent to which I was provoking because she was mad at the same thing I was: because we both hated the fact that we werent together which I picked up on becaue when I wasnt drinking, she was showing me some major IOIs. The other day when we got back to the states I did something I never thought I would ever do and apologized. I did feel like a pure dbag because of how I treated her when we were in rome. She told me that I never cared about her and I didnt respond. When she followed up asking if I did care I just responded yes. She told me that she already broke up with her boyfriend once because of me and she would never consider doing it again. I told her it was fine. I also told her that I was not going to interfere between her and her relationship but that I was not going to wait for her. I got up from the table and just said that if we were both single at some point in the future I would like to take her to dinner and walked away. I figured that I accomplished my goal of letting her know I wanted to date her but that I wasnt going to put her on a pedistal. I know that at least part of her is still attracted to me even though part of her also hates me. I really like this girl and she is actual wife material but again, I jacked my initial chances up pretty good. It seems kind of crazy to still be going after this girl but I am doing it because we had a deep emotional connection since we've both been through a lot of really hard things in our lives that we would have never told anyone else. I dont really have a plan except for nc until she contacts me first... I could really use some advice on what I should do next though
    Sorry for the long post and cheers for any advice.

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    OhSnap is offline PUA in Training
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    Default Re: I ruined my chance... can I get this girl even though she has a bf

    Personally, I dislike playing girls with boyfriends, If I ever get to cheat on one (Never happended yet) I would keep the fuck friend relationship but force myself not to get into her, because it'll just be more stress to yourself. Girls tend to make it seem like if its your fault. So I try to avoid all of these situations regarding boyfriends. But thats only if she wouldn't tell me. If I know she has a boyfriend its not even a target to me anymore, I'd flirt with her but not take it higher then that. If something happends with her boyfriend, she'll remember you as that cool guy so I get that chance to holla at her. KNA MEAN.

    Honestly, I'd just say move on because you don't need that stress in your thoughts. Its like f1cking a girl from work and having to see her every time you work. It twisted..

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    carmelon is offline Banned
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    Default Re: I ruined my chance... can I get this girl even though she has a bf

    if she's your target you gotta keep trying bro! what about some david deangelo or mystery method?

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    Default Re: I ruined my chance... can I get this girl even though she has a bf

    Just make sure your breath doesn't smell like handled change


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