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    Default FWB to more?

    For the past three weeks I have been sleeping with my best friend of 7 months. We don't want to label our relationship but its basically a FWB relationship. (hand holding, make outs, sex, studying together, hanging out together, etc.) She tells me she loves the sex, the comfort I give her, and that she finds me attractive.


    Last night I asked her to go to the grad school formal and she told me that she was already asked by a new guy that likes her. I obviously did not take the news properly which caused us to talk about our situation. The conversation led to establishing a rule of sexual exclusivity, but that we are allowed to date others.

    Question:
    1) Is there anyway to convince this girl to be my gf? (can I disappear from her life for awhile or what do I need to do to get her romantically attracted to me?

    2) Is this a doomed situation? Or is there hope?

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    Default Re: FWB to more?

    From the sound of it , you need to detach yourself from the situation , she senses that you want more than just the friends with benefits and that you are chasing her , i just suggest dating other people and ( maybe she thinks that you cant find another person ,maybe she thinks that since you stuck around for 7 months going through emotional amusement park that you PROBABLY WONT LEAVE )
    so why not just date other people and see her reaction , give her that space she wants if she likes you she will emotional , thats just the laws of attraction in action.
    Stop chasing her make yourself less available (make her think" why isn't this turdd paying attention to me ,all the other guys do it why is he different,i will make him want you "
    Or just do nothing continue on sleeping with her ,but also just start fresh with a new girl and make yourself just less available and just flip attraction switches with the new girl.

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    Default Re: FWB to more?

    If you're both in college, please think of this relationship you two have as a rite of passage. Don't spend your youth on one woman - think abundance!

    When you hit your thirties you'll say to yourself, "Had I known this when I was in college, I would have farked all the babes I met!" Well, if you've got the PUAttitude, don't throw away your youth on ONE babe.

    You only live once.
    Carpe diem!

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    Default Re: FWB to more?

    Well Kiesa kind of hit on it. And it's funny (in a morbid sense) because I usually hear about this more from women then men when they get trapped in a FWB situation.

    The thing is, is that you've kind of put the ball in her court as far as telling her that you wanted to be more then just FWB, and she said no. It's one of those, "why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free" sort of situations. She gets all the emotional and physical comfort "as if" she's in a relationship without having to actually be in one (which is how she can rationalize going to a dance with some other guy).

    My advice to you would be this: friend zone her. Like, really friend zone her. Make her actually feel the gravity of what her decision means. Display to her that it's all-or-nothing. If you kind of just shrug and say "ok, we can still be fwb then... it's better then nothing" you're only proving her why she shouldn't bother trying to be anymore then just FWB.

    Don't give into advances, don't keno, treat her like your damn sister! Most importantly, actually go out and talk to other people, and show her that you're not afraid of finding someone who wants what you want.

    (Oh, and I meant to mention this too. Check out "Make her beg to be your girlfriend" by Michael Fiore on Amazon. He covers this kind of stuff dead-on, and it's a real short --less than 40 pages-- kind of book, and it's only like, 3 bucks).


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