Ok so just to give you some background: Met this girl at college, (she's in my class) I liked her, but I had overheard her saying she has a boyfriend. Although my knowledge of pua techniques was very limited at that stage, I made a plan to seduce her and systematically followed it through.
Busted/teased her a lot, used cocky comedy, that got her laughing and hanging around me all the time. She asked what I was doing at lunch time and if she could tag along with me. I flirted, went on to build rapport then I kissed her. She responded very well, to the point that she came back to mine after college and we did the deed. I love it when a plan comes together
We slept together on another two occasions over the course of about 2 months. It's been few and far between cause she has a busy schedule in the week and is generally not available at weekends due to having a bf.
Now she has never cheated on him before and she's conflicted about it. She has told me a couple of times that I have made her life very complicated. She has also been kind of awkward since we first had sex, which I find challenging, seeing as though we have to spend 2 days a week together at college and there are many situations where it is just the two of us sitting over coffee/lunch and there have been quite a few awkward silences. My text game has been good though and up until recently she was texting me all the time.
Anyway, to finally get to the point, I just got back, having been on holiday for a month. She texted me several times while I was away and I really took my time to respond. I thought I was in control, but something has changed. She didn't seem too excited about me arriving back in the country. When I asked what she was up to she had no problem telling me she was going out with her bf and staying over at his place (made me jealous,but I never show it)
Later that night, probably just before she met up with the bf, I got this text from her:
"I don't think we should do this anymore. Don't get me wrong, I like being friends with you a lot and I don't want that to change. But I don't think we should see each other as more... I want us to still to be friends and hang out in college etc. Maybe even go for a few drinks but idk if I can carry-on seeing you as more. Maybe its cause I'm slightly drunk or whatever, but it's just my opinion. You can input on the situation if you think anything else of it?"
So obviously on first reading this I thought it was the dreaded "let's just be friends" routine and a death sentence for the sexual relationship. However, on second reading I noticed her last sentence asking for my input. To my mind it comes across like she's half-hearted about calling time on what we've been doing. Maybe some kind of test to bring out my feelings for her? Getting me to fight for her perhaps?
Anyway, I sent her back a text saying that I would rather we carry on what we've been doing, but I wasn't needy about it. Told her I can handle it if she decides to call things off. I also asked if breaking it off with me is what she wants or what she thinks she should do. It elicited this response from her:
"It's what I think I should do. Not what I want. I like spending time with you. I like that you want to do stuff, etc. It's just difficult. I don't want it to change, I just want it to stop being majorly awkward between us. But yeah I'm in a relationship and that makes it more awkward, but if we can both deal with that then it should be ok I guess."
So she has essentially just agreed to carry-on sleeping with me. That was yesterday. I haven't heard from her at all today and I haven't contacted her as I'm planning my next move. It's a volatile situation and I suspect there is still a danger of her pulling the old LJBF routine on me. How do I avoid this? I ultimately want her to be my gf. I've been trying to build more comfort lately, but I'm thinking I should revert back to the attraction stage and go in heavy with the c + f again? Maybe work some subtle bf destroyers into the convo? Anything else I can do? Any advice would really be appreciated. And I appreciate if you read this entire post