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    Default I'm losing her interest, any advice?

    Hey guys, so here's a brief version of my story: This girl who I've had a thing for, for awhile, got in touch with me about 2 months ago on FB to tell me she had a dream about me. Things were going extremely well and we were texting each other daily (some days I would start the convo, other days she would). The problem though, is that so far it has been mostly ALL texting. The one time I did see her however, went very well. She showed a lot of IOIs and she even confirmed it the next day by letting me know that she really enjoys spending time with me. Very often she would say she misses me and / or hint about future events like "our anniversaries when we get one". . . This last week, however, our texting pattern has taken a complete 180. If I don't initiate the convo, there will never be one (she doesn't text first anymore); If I say something flirty, it either goes unnoticed or is responded to with a "lol"; The use of any pet name like babe, baby, sexy, etc. has stopped; And if I ask to hang out it seems like there is always an excuse. It's getting to the point where I almost just want to ask her what the deal is because it seems like she lost interest in me over night (but I know that's a big no no). I don't think I've ever really come off as needy or clingy, even though there have been times where I was a little sweet with her. . . Any other girl I would just say "Fark it" and move on, but I really think I can have something great with this one, and up until last week, she felt the same way. Any advice? I can be a little more specific if it would help.

    Thanks in advance.

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    Default Re: I'm losing her interest, any advice?

    it seems you were giving her all that she wanted out of the relationship through text and what not. Generally you don't really want to do anything more than flirt a bit over text. I usually don't do anything to be construed as "sweet" towards a girl until after I have slept with her, if that is my intentions because I used to have this same problem.

    Rule of thumb...it is okay to flirt, give SLIGHT IOIs and what not over text, but never call them sweetie or honey or babe or anything like that. They have to give you the time to meet in person to get that sort of thing. They have no reason to meet and have sex with you if they are getting what they want.

    You need to freeze her out. I can't really give any further advice on this though, I need some more expert opinions as I usually loose them when its like this.
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    Default Re: I'm losing her interest, any advice?

    Thanks for the fast reply, Blistex.

    I think you're absolutely right about me giving her too much via texts. Basically from the moment she messaged me things escalated very quickly to the point where we were talking like we were practically bf/gf. . I was very excited to hear from her and because I kept getting positive feedback I guess I just went along with the things I was saying without really thinking about it. We would have very long convos via texts, which most of the time turned into flirting. Seemed great, but I don't think I ever obtained an alpha male image. Often times she would say I was "too cute" etc . . . We spoke last night briefly, only because I initiated it, and I told her at one point that I had been thinking about her. (that was stupid now that I think about it) . . Do you think a Freeze Out is really the way to go here? Thanks again.

    Edit: Is this a situation I can even recover from? Or have I blown it?

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    Default Re: I'm losing her interest, any advice?

    She is bored, possibly seeing someone in real life. This isn't even something where you messed up per say. Just let her go, chances are she will miss the connection and come back and you will have another shot. Start gaming other girls and take it as a lesson learned.
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