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    Default Advice for getting out of friend zone with co-worker?

    There's this co-worker of mine who's a farkin knockout with a great personality, I wanna make her mine. The problem is we've worked together for the past like six years, so it was a real challenge to change that image she had of me. I became more friendly with her and started flirting alot, like negs and push-pulling but being careful to freeze her out on some days and others not.

    I'm leaving this job soon for a better opportunity else where, and I was planning on trying to escalate the attraction and get her to go on a date with me before I left, until recently when..

    A couple days ago I had my 21st birthday. Her, my other coworkers, and a bunch of friends came out to help celebrate with me... I have never been totally black out drunk before and I am missing the last three hours of the night. In which I apparently was hitting on this girl hardcore the whole time.

    But from the stories I heard, I was doing a lot of negging, complimenting her in ways that didn't sound AFC in the way they told it, some push and pull, DHVing because everyone was laughing at what I was saying(I wasn't saying stupid stuff, it was mostly sh1t like "Yeah I know, I'm usually swimming in my own thoughts" or "Oh that's what that is? I thought that smell was [insert girls name] opening her legs." ) One of my friends literally went through the whole night jotting down all the funny things that I said, and read them to me the next day. Most of them involved this girl I'm trying to date.

    I ran into this girl last night getting off work, and I had a drink with her and her friends. She was laughing and telling me stories about how I was hitting on her all night, complimenting me on the way I was able to hold my alcohol. (apparently I had taken 20 shots, with a sh1t ton of beer inbetween) She invites me to join them for a drink down the street, I go there and I'm talking to them for a little bit, she starts hugging me and telling me how much I boosted her confidence that night, and that her self esteem has gone way up...

    I have been friend zoned and I need to get out.

    Since I'll be getting a new job, I need to get some business clothing and I plan on changing my wardrobe to a more young professional look. I wanna be able to drop back in at my old work, every now and then, and say hi to everyone. (restaurant) Grab something to eat and catch up. But I hope to run into her at some point, and start fresh again.

    Any advice you have for me about getting out of friend zone and into a relationship would be greatly appreciated.
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    Default Re: Advice for getting out of friend zone with co-worker?

    Dude you've not being friend zoned yet.she talks to you like that cuz its being six years.you have enough comfort.
    You need to amp the attraction.the fact that you were drank and said good things about her may have mad a remarkable mark and i'll suggest you take those lines and find out why it worked and use them in the future..not really but yh.

    To girls what you say when your drunk can be a very big deal.your lucky you didn't say anything akward.

    Ask her out and see where it goes makes sure you are running game first and your getting ios.then go for the meetup.You seem to be ok running game.Escalate!!Peace .

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    Default Re: Advice for getting out of friend zone with co-worker?

    She's always been comfortable around me, we just lacked sexual chemistry which I have been trying to work up to.

    I think she did have some level of interest in me though because during that night (when I saw her sober) she was all like "You better not take anything you said that night back.. Please say you won't take it back, I would die!" (Sh1t Test obviously) I'm about to say some smart ass comment but then I decided against it last minute when I saw that puppy dog look on her face. (she looked adorable)

    I'm so mad at myself for failing her obvious sh1t test! Because as soon as I gave in she immediately pulled back the affection and emotion that she was pouring out at me. (She was tipsy and energetic the whole time)

    Also.. I had a funny line I was gonna drop on her too!

    Do you guys have any ideas on how to not get drawn into this? I wanna be able to keep my frame without being sidetracked by a pretty face.

    I can do it really well with girls that I just use for "practice", not one's I'm actually trying to date.

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    Default Re: Advice for getting out of friend zone with co-worker?

    This girl likes you. kiss her at least.
    This in it self should catapult you out of the too comfort zone.

    There was one time i had a girl who was my friend and i wanted to push things forward.At that time i love spouting lines and was always frame controlling.This is not bad but if the is no escalation there may be to much rapport and comfort which may lead to the dreadzone .

    After meeting her up we walked for a while(little bit of bantering) and then i sent her home.there was comfortable silence for a few seconds before we got to the door and then we(i held her hand) went to this corner.then it began.

    The moral is do you know what the girl told me on phone that night.
    HB:At least you kissed me so you are not my friend right?.


    After the kiss etc our relation went to a whole new level.you have that opportunity now don't let it slack.Escalate!!.

    "You better not take anything you said that night back.. Please say you won't take it back, I would die!" (sh1t test obviously)
    Yep good you noticed that but you could have kissed her if you wanted to.Cuz in a way too she was supplicating to you.kinda seeking your approval.you passed by not being beta though

    You need to get her alone where you the two of you can kiss..See it as a huge bridge if you don't handle it well remember she is a female and she can tell.you have not being dominant.Take this seriously and move things forward.

    Bet you still want her in your arms as your girlfriend.

    Remember anytime you're running game and your getting ios move things ahead.Lead.it takes a couple of chances before there are no chances.Sometimes when you delay escalation your girl may think you don't find her attractive or worse you are that guy that wont make it happen it could hurt her overall attraction to you.

    If you want lines fine. but handle this.Cuz seriously thats all you need to do now.think Kino,the kiss close,escalation.


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