There's this co-worker of mine who's a farkin knockout with a great personality, I wanna make her mine. The problem is we've worked together for the past like six years, so it was a real challenge to change that image she had of me. I became more friendly with her and started flirting alot, like negs and push-pulling but being careful to freeze her out on some days and others not.
I'm leaving this job soon for a better opportunity else where, and I was planning on trying to escalate the attraction and get her to go on a date with me before I left, until recently when..
A couple days ago I had my 21st birthday. Her, my other coworkers, and a bunch of friends came out to help celebrate with me... I have never been totally black out drunk before and I am missing the last three hours of the night. In which I apparently was hitting on this girl hardcore the whole time.
But from the stories I heard, I was doing a lot of negging, complimenting her in ways that didn't sound AFC in the way they told it, some push and pull, DHVing because everyone was laughing at what I was saying(I wasn't saying stupid stuff, it was mostly sh1t like "Yeah I know, I'm usually swimming in my own thoughts" or "Oh that's what that is? I thought that smell was [insert girls name] opening her legs." ) One of my friends literally went through the whole night jotting down all the funny things that I said, and read them to me the next day. Most of them involved this girl I'm trying to date.
I ran into this girl last night getting off work, and I had a drink with her and her friends. She was laughing and telling me stories about how I was hitting on her all night, complimenting me on the way I was able to hold my alcohol. (apparently I had taken 20 shots, with a sh1t ton of beer inbetween) She invites me to join them for a drink down the street, I go there and I'm talking to them for a little bit, she starts hugging me and telling me how much I boosted her confidence that night, and that her self esteem has gone way up...
I have been friend zoned and I need to get out.
Since I'll be getting a new job, I need to get some business clothing and I plan on changing my wardrobe to a more young professional look. I wanna be able to drop back in at my old work, every now and then, and say hi to everyone. (restaurant) Grab something to eat and catch up. But I hope to run into her at some point, and start fresh again.
Any advice you have for me about getting out of friend zone and into a relationship would be greatly appreciated.