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Thread: Should I proceed further with this chick from college?

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    Default Should I proceed further with this chick from college?

    I will try to make this as short and simple as possible even though it is not.

    Met this chick at college a few months ago. We really clicked; constant ioi's all night: eye contact, smiling, her touching me and stroking my hair, etc. Probably would have hooked up if this other guy was not smothering her all night, she was not interested just too nice to tell him to shove off. Got her number extremely easy, just asked for it and she gave it while smiling. Texted her like a week later trying to get her to come out to a party, she explained she could not due to her busy schedule.

    The remainder of the semester was like this: would text her and either got no reply or a reply from her stating she is too busy. Over the remainder of the semester we would have small conversations together though where I got to know her better. She explained to me that she really does want to hang out with me, she is just extremely busy working two full time jobs to pay for her schooling while going to school full time as well as balancing her own friends. She even went as far to state that she would come to one of my hockey games. She still sometimes does not reply though; I just figure this is due to her being busy at work or school because why would she reply to some and not others? When I told her I was probably going back home for the summer she seemed really genuinely down about it since she would finally be less busy. She also likes my facebook statuses when I post about my life going well and it moving forward; which I interpret as her caring how I am doing.

    So, a few questions:

    Should I still keep being persistent with this girl? I generally text her once every two weeks to keep it simple. She is probably a 9/10 with a great personality and someone that I can definitely see myself dating.

    Why does she only reply to some of my texts?

    Why do I always have to text her first?

    If she really wanted to hang out with me I feel like she would have already? Granted we almost have a few times but complications arose either with her or me.

    Any tips to change my game up and get an initial hangout/icebreaker outta the way with this girl (if even worth it) ? I am confident enough to say that if I could just get her out with me once that my personality and style can do the rest. I just cannot tell if she is saying all of this just to be nice or not or if she is interested. I am still talking to other girls and sh1t on the side (I am at college c'mon now) but this is the one that I am truly interested in. The others I just do not feel satisfied talking to or being with, they are too simple minded for me.

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    Default Re: Should I proceed further?

    She is obviously a busy girl and if she cuts to see you it would cost her education.Even if you close this girl you may still have to deal with that.are you going support her .
    Thinking on the long term i think this girl may be hooked up with and kept as a friend.

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    Default Re: Should I proceed further with this chick from college?

    Well I would actually have no problem with closing on her and dealing with her busy schedule as well as supporting it since I am also super busy with school, work, hockey, and my own friends as well.

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    Default Re: Should I proceed further with this chick from college?

    Hmm i think that what you should do is either get this girl on phone(esp) or text then run game.tell her about things that went on the day that are interesting,i presume you know how to talk but then what you must do is as your engaging her and she seems to like it.,ie. she is laughing at your jokes, putting an effort into the interaction,ios really etc. then go for the meet up.
    state the time place and where you would meet.

    a girl would come out and meet you if she is engaged and you ask in a dominant way.you should at least take things as far as you can.safe!.you may update this thread

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    Default Re: Should I proceed further with this chick from college?

    Ok so I decided to hit her up tonight since summer has begun for us and she is supposedly less busy. Got a reply a few hours later around 12:30am once she was out of work. Here is the conversation:

    "How is your non-insane work life going so far?"

    "It's going amazing!!! Haha sorry I thought I sent you a text earlier. How about you?" (She meant how am I doing)

    "Just studying for my calculus final, preparing for 3 interviews in Chicago, and letting my foot heal. Got Daft Punk's new album today though!"

    "Whaaaaat a final? And what happened to your foot? And good luck on your interviews even though I hope you stay down here this summer. I heard the new album is good"

    "Yeah, the farkin community colleges have their finals a week later than us. My hockey skates are too old and small for my foot and I guess I developed a really bad callus/wart that had to have minor surgery done today at the clinic I work at back in Chicago so I can wear dress shoes again for these interviews lol. Dunno if I ever told you but I am a medical assistant back home, and I hope I stay down here too "

    "Man that sucks, I'm sure you'll do great though. Aww man that sucks!!! Ouch that sounds kinda rough. And I never knew that haha that's really cool. I moved into my new place and we have HBO on demand, it's soooo nice"

    "Did we ever figure out if the place I am living at next year is close to yours? Our place's exterior resembles a prison, it is so bad haha"

    "I think that's pretty close"

    "I'm surprised someone actually stays up as late as me (here it was about 2am at the time) but yeah we gotta hang out for sure ver soon. We'll see if you can keep up with my style of partying and doing things Hopefully I'm not as busy next semester as you were this semester. I planned on trying to get back into my acoustic among other things"

    "I'm sure we can make it work haha. And we'll see if you can keep up with me!!! Speaking of staying up late I might actually try and get some sleep haha"

    "Ok, G'night then! "

    "Night!!! Talk to you later"



    Was this an alright conversation? Any tips for things I said that I shouldn't have or things that I didn't say that I should have? Does it seem like she is interested based on this conversation?

    Keep in mind I am in Chicago for the summer so I cannot exactly directly ask her to hang out and that we are also in the initial stages of getting to know each other so I cannot really flirt too hard or make any sexual references so that I do not come off as a creep or scare her away (Especially since I am in Chicago anyways). I think I make it pretty clear I am interested by being persistent and personally I believe our conversations are a bit flirty but that's what I want you guys to tell me I guess. I will be back up there in June and basically just am keeping up with talking to her so that her interest does not go elsewhere or disappear. I try to constantly display value to her by keeping up with her life and making her keep up with mine. She knows I play hockey, guitar, and many other things so I think the interest is there I just gotta keep up with it.

    Really cannot decide if she is just being nice and wants to be friends as things stand right now or is interested. Re-read the conversation and I guess I really need some 3rd party opinions. Some aspects represent her just being nice and wanting a friendship but her constantly telling me she wants me down there for the summer to hang out with her represent interest (or maybe she just wants someone to hang out with and bring her to parties).

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    Default Re: Should I proceed further with this chick from college?

    Keeping up with each others lives is cute but if you don't get physical sort of you may build too much comfort and fall in the friendzone .

    attraction is in levels.if you do one thing it opens up another thing you must do.it called bridges or what you must do to get to the next step(very crucial).if you stay too long she may become your friend and thats not what we want.right now she is screening you.but who knows.


    stay back and get to hang her if you may but make it seem you have something going on in the venue.in other words have an excuse to be there. like you decided to do this research etc.

    if she questions you just say you decided to stay for a few because have to complete this thing

    then get her alone.She doesn't want to be be friends yet.like i said she is screening you.if you like her close her.see it as the man what you must do for your relation.

    As soon as you are done with escalation you may wait for a few days and come home.Either its up to you.you know what to do.kiss her at least

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    Default Re: Should I proceed further with this chick from college?

    Yeah I realize that if I keep talking to her without hanging out I will either A) Bore her B) Seem desperate C) Friend-zone

    That is why I only talk to her like every 2-3 weeks. Just enough to keep me on her mind but not fall into either A, B, or C above. When I do talk to her I always make sure to show value so that she knows I have many other things going on in my life and that she is just a small fragment of what I do or who I talk to.

    My roommate and I are planning on moving some of our stuff down there in about two weeks so when I am there for the weekend I plan on just casually messaging her or calling her and inviting her out with us, and then hopefully bridging from screening to approval and maybe even escalation. All depends on the situation and social gethering. I definitely want to make sure she knows I am interested but not come on too strong. It will be our first time hanging out really and I know it is generally accepted that it takes a woman at least 8 hours (a few hang outs) for their comfort level to be where it needs to be.


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