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    Default How can i be Too Nice?

    Hey guys, i'm new to the puaforums but anyway.

    There is this girl that i like and my friends have told me that she some-what likes me and would date me, but she also thinks that i'm too nice, I've looked at many different ways to be "not as nice" but its just not me, i would like any possible help at all.

    Thanks in advance -

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    Default Re: How can i be Too Nice?

    In what context did she say you we're to nice? To you, in person? She could be saying this because you don't take lead in your interactions with her

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    Default Re: How can i be Too Nice?

    well, i haven't talked to her about it directly, but my friend (who has a class with her) said he brought me up and she said,
    "i wouldn't go out with him because he is too nice".

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    Default Re: How can i be Too Nice?

    It's because your the guy that she goes......'aww ain't he sweet'......not the guy she dreams of sweeping her off her feet and ravaging her against the wall.
    At the most basic level she simply doesn't see you as a sexual threat. You have to become more of an alpha male. Search the site for threads on this.

    Linking x

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    Default Re: How can i be Too Nice?

    Quote Originally Posted by linking View Post
    It's because your the guy that she goes......'aww ain't he sweet'......not the guy she dreams of sweeping her off her feet and ravaging her against the wall.
    At the most basic level she simply doesn't see you as a sexual threat. You have to become more of an alpha male. Search the site for threads on this.

    Linking x
    how would i go about becoming an "Alpha male" would you be able to post some links that you, *Personally* have found useful ?

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    Default Re: How can i be Too Nice?

    Linking is bang on the money here.

    You're not pushing any of her attraction switches and all you've done is built comfort not attraction.

    comfort without attraction = friendzone.

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    Default Re: How can i be Too Nice?

    hey, i just checked out the link and i found it very, Very informational. thanks heaps.

    -Mufastang

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    Default Re: How can i be Too Nice?

    Quote Originally Posted by sidewinder89 View Post
    Linking is bang on the money here.

    You're not pushing any of her attraction switches and all you've done is built comfort not attraction.

    comfort without attraction = friendzone.
    I see, so how would you recommend I *push* her attraction switches and build attraction

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    Default Re: How can i be Too Nice?

    There are a lot of threads on here about building attraction but I'll summarise the key principles: push and pull, Kino, future projecting and introducing sexual topics.

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    Push and Pull

    not literally. The idea is that you reward her for saying some things that you like or "pull her in" and tease her and "push her away on others". It's about showing that you have your own opinions and displaying that those opinions are important. Ultimately you want to joke around and tease her about stuff, it makes her fell like she has to earn your attraction. We all want what we can't have, so don't be a yes man. Challenge and tease her. "Aww that's cute you still like that". etc. You're not being mean, just playfully teasing her and making her qualify herself to you.


    Kino

    kino is all about touching and physical interaction. Bascially, touch is a very big part of attraction. You want a girl to be used to and comfortable with your touch; it will make it easier to go for the kiss. kino starts light, with touching the hands, shoulders a rib poke or elbow nudge and gradually builds to a hand round her waist, cheek and eventually kiss. I can't emphasise enough how important kino is in attraction, 80% of our communication is body language, for me it's THE most important part in building attraction.


    Future Projecting

    This is basically making future plans together, it doesn't have to be realistic you can role play it into anything. Comments like "Well I don't want to have to come and bail you out" or "let's open an ice cream stand". Or if you want serious go down the "we soo need to have a [insert tv show] marathon, I love that show! Bascially, you are planting the idea that you are going to meet in a non-threatening non-serious way. It's a way of building compliance slowly, turning a small yes into a bigger yes.


    Being Sexual

    I don't mean going "hey I wanna fark"... no no. But as linking said, flirting is about being perceived as a sexual threat. It is always worth pushing boundaries and apologising if you over-step the mark rather than falling short. Better to ask forgiveness than permission. Introduce any topic that involves being naked e.g. T-Mal's "I'll talk to you later, I need to go shower, try not think about me all soapy and in the buff ". Ask her about shoulder rubs and anything like that.

    This should give you a starting point as to what I mean. Search each of the topics, particularly Kino, for more info.

    Peace Out A Town Down


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