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Thread: When a girl cancels a date, what is your next step?

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    Default When a girl cancels a date, what is your next step?

    Hey PUAs, I have a situation that I believe a lot of guys run into occasionally, so advice would be much appreciated.

    I met this girl online last Friday, we chatted back and forth quite a bit and conservation went pretty well she always replies within half an hour and send me really long replies whenever I text her. However she never initiate any conversation first though I make sure I end the conversation first and she always be the last one to write.

    I set up a date with her for today, she replied she's excited and looking forward to that. However she texted me 4 hours before the meet up. Said that she just got a call from one of her friend that they are graduating today and she has no idea until the phone call. Then she said "So AS MUCH as I would love to spend my evening with you, friends come first. I feel like such a horrible person now"

    I replied "Okay no worries, but coffee on you next time. (:" She said "Of course, coffee on me"

    So I just leave it like that cause she didn't mention anything about rescheduling. So my question is should I wait a few days and text her again, or just leave it like that? Cause I can tell she is some what into me and I don't wanna miss out the opportunity.



    Side note: This morning I told her I have a bad news about we might have to do a weather check for our date today. She said don't worry about it, we can always rescheduling. So she did want to rescheduling for the bad weather but never mention it later today when she canceled on me.

    Thanks guys!!

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    Default Re: When a girl cancels a date, what is your next step?

    Leave it there it is a nice leave reschedule Saturday if possible I wouldn't press the issue, give it a day so that you don't appear needy or boring, after all you have a life aside from her. If you don't please fake like you do.
    Learn to be a better person not a better player.

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    Default Re: When a girl cancels a date, what is your next step?

    When a girl cancels on me I will go and do what we planned to for the date.

    If it's coffee, drinks or a movie I will call a friend or two and go. If I can't find a friend then I go alone.

    As soon as I get there I will order a beer and I will have someone around me snap a picture. Waitresses are more than happy to take a pic with you.

    Same thing at a movie I get a big bag of popcorn and I get someone to snap a pic as I get the popcorn. I make sure that I smile and that it looks like I am having a GREAT TIME.

    The next day I send her the pic and text her, "Damn, you missed out on a wild and crazy time. We had so much fun. It got kind of crazy at the end with some stuff." If you go alone don't mention that. Always say you had friends come with you. social proof.

    It just shows her that you aren't relying on her to have a fun night out. You also show dhv.

    After this text the girl is always anxious to re-schedule the cancelled date. Don't make yourself available on Friday or Saturday night even if you are free. Make her work for your time.

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    Default Re: When a girl cancels a date, what is your next step?

    Thanks for y'all replies, so I left it like that and didn't message her for 2 days as I was pretty busy during the weekend.

    As I expect she didn't messages me so I shoot her a text today (Sunday) when I'm finally free. Told her the weather is getting better, I'm going to the beach next week and she should come join me for some ice cream.

    She replied "Well I do love ice cream and the beach"

    So we arranged the meet up on Tuesday after work. Though it doesn't sound too promising she just said "Yes yes". But whatever will see what happens. If not I still have another date on Friday.

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    Default Re: When a girl cancels a date, what is your next step?

    Stop letting her take you through hoops.if she doesn't come on the date you need to freeze her out and reengage with the focus of building more attraction.
    tell her how you went on this trip how some girls seems to be really friendly, tell her how something interesting happened,heck tell her you went to the movies with friends or something.this will let her guard down and be more open.if she keeps saying no you may become that guy and thats not what we want.

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    Default Re: When a girl cancels a date, what is your next step?

    So I shoot her a text last night no reply what so ever and the date it's today.

    This is the first time she didn't response to my text, should I send her along those line maybe 2 hours before the date to see if she's coming?

    "When you're here look for a handsome gentlemen standing next to a giant ice sculpture as I will be carving in your honor. And hurry it's melting! (:"



    PS. I feel like she lost attraction after I freeze her out for 2 days after we cancel on our first date. But when I reschedule with her on Sunday (after the Freeze Out), we were still talking and joking normally. Didn't know where did it go wrong.

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    Default Re: When a girl cancels a date, what is your next step?

    Quote Originally Posted by Jowai32 View Post
    Hey PUAs, I have a situation that I believe a lot of guys run into occasionally, so advice would be much appreciated.

    I met this girl online last Friday, we chatted back and forth quite a bit and conservation went pretty well she always replies within half an hour and send me really long replies whenever I text her. However she never initiate any conversation first though I make sure I end the conversation first and she always be the last one to write.

    I set up a date with her for today, she replied she's excited and looking forward to that. However she texted me 4 hours before the meet up. Said that she just got a call from one of her friend that they are graduating today and she has no idea until the phone call. Then she said "So AS MUCH as I would love to spend my evening with you, friends come first. I feel like such a horrible person now"

    I replied "Okay no worries, but coffee on you next time. (:" She said "Of course, coffee on me"

    So I just leave it like that cause she didn't mention anything about rescheduling. So my question is should I wait a few days and text her again, or just leave it like that? Cause I can tell she is some what into me and I don't wanna miss out the opportunity.



    Side note: This morning I told her I have a bad news about we might have to do a weather check for our date today. She said don't worry about it, we can always rescheduling. So she did want to rescheduling for the bad weather but never mention it later today when she canceled on me.

    Thanks guys!!
    I think you already have attraction built. You have to just wait until she replied if she doesn't. You Freeze Out for a while. And leave this mind where you're thinking " I don't want to miss the opportunity"; you may inadvertently communicate to her your neediness and that could melt down the attraction. Good luck man, you almost there with a F-close!

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    Default Re: When a girl cancels a date, what is your next step?

    So I shoot her a text last night no reply what so ever and the date it's today.

    This is the first time she didn't response to my text, should I send her along those line maybe 2 hours before the date to see if she's coming?


    "When you're here look for a handsome gentlemen standing next to a giant ice sculpture as I will be carving in your honor. And hurry it's melting! (:"


    your line is not bad but it communicates a bit of neediness.if a girl wants to come out she knows.i think she has felt a bit of neediness from you which made her back up a bit.it normal, after a few more successful dates you should have this handled.

    In a nutshell don't text a girl the day before the date.

    I feel like she lost attraction after I freeze her out for 2 days after we cancel on our first date. But when I reschedule with her on Sunday (after the Freeze Out), we were still talking and joking normally. Didn't know where did it go wrong.

    freeze out didn't really matter just keep building attraction you will be fine


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