Hey guys, first off i woukd like to apologize if this kind of issue has already been talked about.
Backstory: I dated this girl from august to november last year, we broke up because she felt i believe it was smothered lol we were always together, either staying at my place or hers. We never faught or even had an argument..
After we broke up we stopped talking and she went on to date someone else, and someone else after that.
4/5 weeks ago we made contact again and started to talk again. We talked about how we missed each other and such. Then the kicker, she started to date someone haha. However that didn't last long at all. We then started to talk more and hang out.
We would cuddle while watching movies and i would stay over at her place and when we slept she would have her arms wrapped around me with her head on my chest and claimed it was the best sleep she got. but we would not have sex or kiss, she told me she wasnt ready and that she wanted to take things slow and work out her issues that she was having and what not so we would start off on a fresh slate.
She has told me that after we broke up she fell into depression and was never happy with anyone else except me. She claims to love seeing me and all that stuff haha. She was having a hard time with her family not caring about her and just wanting money (i have witnessed this). I told her to book off a weekend and that i would take her on a relaxing kind of romantic weekend to Seattle. She got so very excited and can't wait to go.
1 week ago: A friend of hers got evicted and had no where to go so she took him in. We had a long discussion/argument about it as she said that she was starting to like him but didn't know what was going to happen. She still tells me that she loves spending time with me and she swore that nothing was going on and that our weekend coming up would be a great way for us to reconect.
Present: shes still excited for our trip in just under two weeks, she still loves seeing me and we text a lot.
The problem: this other guy she claims nothing is going on but how do i know that there isn't? When i go home and she goes home sinve he's living there for the next little bit.
It also seems like its getting to be a battle between me and him to see her and more frequently she seems to get distant and short with her texts. How do i get her to chase after me? Also how can i get her to start kissing me.
Also how can i make sure that the weekend is not a bust and be able to seal the deal?
One thought i had was getting flowers sent to the hotel and call the hotel and ask them to put it in our room for her so its there when we walk in the door.
Sorry for the long post but i really care for her and want to see what could be at least so i need help with ways to win her over and have her chase me with no regrets? I am going to read articles on here and other sites but just thought someone would have great ideas
Thanks so much for any advice/help in advance.