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    Sterling is offline PUA in Training
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    Default Girl is finally single after years with ex.

    Recently I found out this girl I've been hardcore crushing on for the past few years became single. She had been dating this guy for a bit over 3 years, and it seemed to be a pretty serious relationship. Apparently she broke it off a few months ago, but kept it very hush-hush so I only recently heard about it.

    I've been playing cat and mouse with her for years, as we've had the same class together since we were both freshmen and share the same major. I'd always catch her giving me furtive looks from across the room, and she has always been pretty receptive to my flirting, even when she was dating her boyfriend. Now that she's single, I want to strike while the iron is hot.

    This is where the problem comes in: she's out of state for the summer, and won't be back for about 6 more weeks. We've been chatting it up on Facebook once or twice a week, flirting, bullsh1tting about what we've been doing, how we're going to hang out when she gets back, etc. She even asked me what classes I am taking in the fall, and picked one I'm in so we could be study partners. I'm all about letting her screw around for a bit since she hasn't been single in a long time, so that when she gets back she might be a bit more open to another relationship.

    As for the ex, he won't be much of a problem. We almost never talk about him, and the one time she mentioned him she seemed annoyed as he kept contacting her even months after the break-up. So he's still pretty AFC as far as I can tell.

    Basically the only advice I really need here is how I can keep escalating attraction without letting her get too comfortable around me. I know there definitely has to be an equilibrium between the two to keep from falling into the friend zone, but it's difficult to come up with ways of doing that without physical contact. Anyone have a suggestion?

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    Default Re: Girl is finally single after years with ex.

    Just cause she's comfortable with you doesn't mean you will technically be friendzoned. You need to escalate to make her comfortable with you but to break the FRIENDZONE moment you have to make your intentions CLEAR. Flirt with her/ don't be afraid to touch Kino with her and don't chase her too much( that can actually get you friendzoned or become her play-thing)
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    Default Re: Girl is finally single after years with ex.

    Oh yeah, I definitely know to Kino her as much as I can when I'm around her, which I've been pretty careful about in the past. I'm just wondering what all I can do in the meantime until we're in a room together again.

    But yeah, I think I could make my intentions a bit clearer. Though I'm sure she knows by this point I'm interested, she'd be crazy not to.

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    Default Re: Girl is finally single after years with ex.

    Don't text her everyday. It can ruin the attraction because you basically text her everyday so why would she want to meet up. ( lmao I make that mistake a lot)
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    Default Re: Girl is finally single after years with ex.

    It certainly seems you have momentum, and things are going in the right direction.

    If it were me.... I'd keep on going with the flirting, but not too much and OCCASIONAL talking, just to keep the fire burning and I also wouldn't come straight out with it until she's there in person, at the right moment.

    Pull away a little bit, get her to chase you and want you as much as possible. When she gets back, bring her on a date and build the sexual/emotional attraction then she'll be yours.


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