Quite a detailed post ahead. If it's tl;dr then my 2 questions are right at the end. However, please read if you have time as I would like to know if what I'm doing is adequate and I appreciate any input from you professional PUAs out there!
I've been lurking this site for a while and I have used some hints and tips posted to some success. However, I need advice on a slightly different topic as I'm kinda bored of chasing girls now and would like to settle down for a bit so my question here is: how to keep it being more than friends with a girl who just came out of a 2 year relationship, and when to go in for the kill.
I've known this girl for about a month and a half now. We haven't met yet but we've been facebook-chatting for a while as we're meant to be starting our new job abroad in the same city. The convos were initially work-related, like how we're gonna go about booking flights and visas etc, then it got more playful after some initiation on my behalf after I found out her and her ex broke up about a month ago.
What I mean by playful is that we've already given each other nicknames, and often talk about the things that we're going to do together while over there (food-tasting, exploring, sports etc) and she joked about if I ever became a supervillain she would be the super hero that defeats me. Regarding the activities, I have been taking the lead and suggesting them and not once did she say no and I'd like to take that as a good sign. She's also a shy girl and mentioned once that she doesn't like large groups of people and if she gets nervous around them she would like it if we can steal off together.
The subject of her ex comes up from time to time. Recently she said she still misses him and she will not try to be an emotional mess around me so that she ''doesn't scare me off'' and once asked me to kick him for her if I see him (as he will be on the same training course as us for 2 weeks). To that I brushed her off, saying I don't advocate violence unless he does something that warrants it, and told her that I've been through rough break ups before and if she needs someone to talk to I'll be there to listen, although I'd rather not have to deal with it.
So far I think I've been doing OK; I've been making myself semi-unavailable and only talk to her about once every couple of days (but when we talk it's often for hours), I've mentioned that I'll be there for her but I won't let her walk over me, and I've been flirtatious from time to time.
We're going to meet for the training course in 2 weeks for the first time, and I plan on making a move on her if I'm still interested in her after meeting her in person. By the time that we meet it would be 2 months after her breakup, so what I was wondering is:
1) if there's anything else I can do in the meanwhile to keep myself from slipping inside the dreaded friendzone?
2) is 2 months enough for someone who just got out of a 2 yr relationship (where about 9 months of it was LDR) to be interested in a non-rebound sort of relationship?
Thank you very much in advance for your input!