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Thread: How to ask her out, and I'm interested

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    Exclamation How to ask her out, and I'm interested

    There's this girl, and I'm shooting a long shot here.
    It's complicated but I'll be as brunt as I can be.

    Met this girl from years ago, her mom was my teacher. So there's that to my advantage. Seen her at parties a few times, got her attention and I know she's at least semi interested.

    What I can say about her is she's a HB8 with a little attitude, creative and genuine. I can also tell she wants an Alpha, in particular. Fine with me also

    Problem is, I'm losing her to my other friend who wants her as a FWB but I want her as my own. My cause is better, and my friend wouldn't have hard feelings, he's pretty chill. I hope... haha.

    At any rate, I'm limited to two options...

    Wait till I see her again at a party, try to Isolate her and then be straight up and ask her out... but risk losing her to my friend.

    Or...
    I ask her out on facebook, and try to convey interest in a slight fashion.
    I know I got the right idea, but I don't know how to freaking word it!
    I'm considering messaging her with...

    Hey Shelby, I couldn't help but notice you at the party. You seem pretty alright, and I'd like to get to know you better. How are things with Gregg? Because to be straight up, I'd like to see you Friday night at the Pizza stone(Local joint).
    Consensus here is light at first, then BAM! Yes I want to date you but I respect your current affairs, blah blah.

    Or I could just straight ask her out on a date. What do you guys think?


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    Default Re: How to ask her out, and I'm interested

    Nope, don't do that. A big sticking point a lot of guys have is asking for dates, without even checking for compliance. Being blunt and asking her out is ok, but understand that you're taking an unnecessary risk. Don't wait, because you may not see her at a party. Take initiative and message her on Facebook, but with intentions of talking first. The easiest way to check for compliance initially is just sending an opener. If she responds, you can assume that she's interested and take it from there because you've now opened up some form of communication between you two. Open her with just something light and fun, and if you can, make it an observation about her at the party. Like if she was dancing hard you could say something like, "Hey there spider legs. That 2 steppin and dougie show you put on was pretty intense! I'm surprised your legs haven't fallen off "

    In which she'll respond with laughter and a statement. It's just an example, but you want to present her with a light, fun, (possibly) flirty message to begin with. Once the convo is flowing after some exchanges, you can take her number or possibly push for a date.

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    Default Re: How to ask her out, and I'm interested

    Sweet, you have a point and I'm glad I didnt throw it out there to her.
    Problem is, she's one of the only chicks I can think of who isn't on facebook much so that may be a little difficult. I have a feeling things will drag, and I'll lose steam if I stay on the facebook level. And at which point would be the best time to let her know I'm interested? I'm lost here

    How should I go about getting the number to start the texting game? It's the small steps that kill me man

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    Default Re: How to ask her out, and I'm interested

    Your mind is in the wrong place. You're focusing too much energy on this girl. She's not worth your time, at least not at this stage. Why? Because you barely even know her. There's no reason to kill yourself over the little things. You may see her in person, you may not see her. If you do, go and talk to her, if you don't aww well. Out of sight, out of mind. Control what you can control in the present. You know you have no other way of contacting her, but to use facebook. Don't worry about how the convo is flowing, how you're going to Number Close, when you're going to number close, etc, because the reality of the situation is, she may not even respond to your opener. Take it one step at a time. Send her an opening message, and move on. If she responds ok, great! If she doesn't, she missed out on the chance to meet a great guy. Post back here when you've sent your message. You've got this!


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