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    Default More Than a Fling?

    Hi there,

    I'm really new to this whole online community, largely as I suffer from one-itis. Which I am okay with.

    Anyway the reason I'm posting now is I'm curious to see others opinions on this and follow advice from people knowing the hell what's going on.
    The situation as it stands is I knew this girl a few years ago that despite having back at my place I never F-closed, thought it would potentially be more and both wanted to take it slow. After this I lost contact and never seen her till a couple of weeks ago. We hit it off immediately again kissed, exchanged numbers and began texting. We agreed to meet up and go on a date this time, which went extremely well. Decided to go back to hers F-closed then went back out to a club with friends then back to hers again. In the morning, I had to leave for work. But she asked if I wanted to stay again that night. I did and after work I went back over and we had a very quiet night in just watching films and having sex again. In the morning I had to leave for work again, we had a goodbye kiss and then I left.

    My issue now is that she seems less responsive to texts and when I asked about potentially doing something else this week if she was free, she told me she is moving mid week and will be busy with that. Which is a fairly good reason for being unavailable although she made no effort to state about meeting up after.
    How should I play this as I'd really like a 2nd/3rd date with the girl?

    Cheers for any advice.

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    Default Re: More Than a Fling?

    My rule of thumb after a date is always to send a next day text saying what a great time I had....girls like to feel appreciated...this is extra true after sex....

    But assuming no major stumbling blocks....you asked her when she was free. Don't. Pick a date and go for it, but make it sound exciting..."Hey girls name we're going to have an awesome time at X on Y day, they have the best Z!"
    There are some excellent threads in the texting section about this..

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    Default Re: More Than a Fling?

    In my experience when a girl makes an excuse (or has a reason to be busy) if she wants to see me she'll say something like "cant because of blah blah blah, but I'm free on Whateverday" If she cold shouldered you I'd give her room, wait a few days after she said she'd be busy and then reestablish contact the way Cam explained.. Invite her out, don't ask. Hope she comes round. Cheers Brother

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    Default Re: More Than a Fling?

    I've never experienced a woman going through this, but I know I do. After sex, even if I really like the girl, I often just want to be by myself for a bit. I don't want to make future plans and sometimes don't even want to talk about the night we had. I just need some space to gather my thoughts. Then I'm fine and don't get too weirded out by making plans with her. I think I get scared that they will want a relationship.

    Not saying that this is what she is going through, but it's possible. You already sent out an invite so best thing is just give her her space. Have general convo, but don't make any plans for a week. Wait until next week or weekend to bring up plans. For now just have light hearted convo.
    "All things are subject to interpretation. Whichever interpretation prevails at a given time is a function of power and not truth."

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    Default Re: More Than a Fling?

    Hi guys thanks for the responses and the advice. Did leave it to cool and sent a casual text. No reply. Ahh well onwards and upwards I suppose.
    Thanks again guys, appreciate it


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