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    momoney007 is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Question Friend zone level 1000?? Whats next?

    Hey guys so I'm a brand new member on PUA and here goes my first post. So I've known this girl for about a year now, shes a sophomore and I'm a senior in college. When we first met a year ago all my friends told me she was into me but I pretty much friend zoned her, but as time went on she grew on me and around November I started going after her with whatever nonexistent game that I have and we were spending a lot of time together. She would come over at times and we'd cook and she would sleep over. Anyways things were going great for like two weeks and next thing you know one of my roommates who had just gotten out of a relationship started going after her and pretty much sabotaged me trying to ask her on a date. He pretty much made her uncomfortable being around me and she dropped off. We would still talk but things weren't the same. As the year progressed we talked and she would tell me about her problems in life and with guys, and I would just sit there and listen, which now I know was not the best idea. It was still bothering me that I hadn't asked her out so I did at the end of the year on her birthday. I bought her a necklace and a jewelry box along with a teddy bear, gave it to her and asked her out, got denied because she said she looked at me as one of the guys she would hang out with. So after that I was like alright whatever, at least its off my chest. But I still think about her which is annoying me, I made it a conscious effort to not have any communication with her during the summer and when she came back she wanted to hang out, but I said no. Then the next day I ended up dog sitting for her, which I'm pretty sure counteracted not hanging out with her on the previous day. That's where I'm at right now and I honestly need help. It would be great if I could get some tips on what I did wrong previously and what I could have done better, and what I can do now to get out of the friend zone. I know I'm suppose to distance my self and make her jealous but that's pretty much all I know. I usually get asked out by other girls, but shes the only girl I've ever asked out. I'm a pretty confident guy, who grooms himself and is athletic, not shy and I can always make people laugh but I have absolutely NO GAME WHATSOEVER. If I could get some feedback that would be great! Oh and if you have any question feel free to ask.

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    Lunchbox is offline PUA in Training
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    Default Re: Friend zone level 1000?? Whats next?

    Quote Originally Posted by momoney007 View Post
    Hey guys so I'm a brand new member on PUA and here goes my first post. So I've known this girl for about a year now, shes a sophomore and I'm a senior in college. When we first met a year ago all my friends told me she was into me but I pretty much friend zoned her, but as time went on she grew on me and around November I started going after her with whatever nonexistent game that I have and we were spending a lot of time together. She would come over at times and we'd cook and she would sleep over. Anyways things were going great for like two weeks and next thing you know one of my roommates who had just gotten out of a relationship started going after her and pretty much sabotaged me trying to ask her on a date. He pretty much made her uncomfortable being around me and she dropped off. We would still talk but things weren't the same. As the year progressed we talked and she would tell me about her problems in life and with guys, and I would just sit there and listen, which now I know was not the best idea. It was still bothering me that I hadn't asked her out so I did at the end of the year on her birthday. I bought her a necklace and a jewelry box along with a teddy bear, gave it to her and asked her out, got denied because she said she looked at me as one of the guys she would hang out with. So after that I was like alright whatever, at least its off my chest. But I still think about her which is annoying me, I made it a conscious effort to not have any communication with her during the summer and when she came back she wanted to hang out, but I said no. Then the next day I ended up dog sitting for her, which I'm pretty sure counteracted not hanging out with her on the previous day. That's where I'm at right now and I honestly need help. It would be great if I could get some tips on what I did wrong previously and what I could have done better, and what I can do now to get out of the friend zone. I know I'm suppose to distance my self and make her jealous but that's pretty much all I know. I usually get asked out by other girls, but shes the only girl I've ever asked out. I'm a pretty confident guy, who grooms himself and is athletic, not shy and I can always make people laugh but I have absolutely NO GAME WHATSOEVER. If I could get some feedback that would be great! Oh and if you have any question feel free to ask.
    You have oneitis.

    The fact you're turning down other girls to chase after this one girl is a total waste of your time. You need to forget about her and make a move on one of these other girls. As much as you like her, you have to appreciate that there is an abundance of beautiful women in the world. Better looking, better personalities, more fun to be around and that aren't going to diss you because your approach was wrong.

    What you've learnt so far is great. Being an emotional shoulder to cry on is not good for your game. Dog-sitting was not good for your game.

    Until you can detatch yourself and move onto other people, you'll be stuck in this limbo of chasing her and that's only gonna' drive her further away and drive you crazier.

    Next time, make your move a lot sooner. The days of slow romancing and easing them into liking you (if they ever existed) are dead and so much the better. Attraction is proven to spike highest when they've just met you. You leave it too long when a girl is into you, she'll get bored and find someone who's willing to make that move first because that's the way the game works.

    Whether you use canned openers or magic tricks or NLP or routines or like me you go out and wing it, the universal principal is always the same. Go out there, strike while the iron is hot and escalate as fast as you can with an honest, no bullshit approach.

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    momoney007 is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default Re: Friend zone level 1000?? Whats next?

    Thank man. A lot of my friends have told me to move on, which I'm doing, but its just a little hard since so far shes been the only girl that I can really relate with. And yeah, for sure I'm going to escalate it fast next time I meet a girl, one of the worst things I did was listen to my roommate who waited an entire semester to ask his gf now to a date. I was going to wait a week, but I'm guessing that's slow as well. Thanks for the advice though really appreciate it.

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    Lunchbox is offline PUA in Training
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    Default Re: Friend zone level 1000?? Whats next?

    Quote Originally Posted by momoney007 View Post
    Thank man. A lot of my friends have told me to move on, which I'm doing, but its just a little hard since so far shes been the only girl that I can really relate with. And yeah, for sure I'm going to escalate it fast next time I meet a girl, one of the worst things I did was listen to my roommate who waited an entire semester to ask his gf now to a date. I was going to wait a week, but I'm guessing that's slow as well. Thanks for the advice though really appreciate it.
    A week isn't so bad depending on the scenario itself. Ideally, the quicker the better but if you go out and meet a girl on the street and arrange to hang for coffee at most a week later and you keep some level of communication juggling in the time in between then that's okay. If you're seeing her every day though then there's not so much an excuse.


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