I met this girl last semester during a party at school. I am 22, she is 20. We talked on and off all throughout summer but finally just got around to hanging out yesterday. We went out to lunch (she asked me to go via snapchat as a reply to one of mine). We ate lunch and talked for about an hour after, awesome chemistry, lots of smiling, laughing, joking, hugs (she went in for one as soon as she saw me walk in) etc.
I think I made a few mistakes though and am a little bothered from them and a little lost on where to go from here since I do not know if she considered that a date, or her interest in me as of now is just as a friend (have been out of the dating scene for years FYI).
First off, I did not pay for lunch, she happened to be in front of me in the line and I kind of decided it would be more awkward than anything to just out of no where offer to pay when it's our first time 1-1 hanging out; especially since she is so independent with her money and it was never stated we were on a "date".
Secondly, I did not mention she looked nice or anything and should have, but we started talking so quickly about other topics that it completely slipped my mind.
Thirdly, I ended up catching a ride with her back since she offered and wanted to see where I live; I think it's a little de-masculating to have to catch a ride from the girl. I walked there she drove, I do not have a car on campus, my roommate and I share one.
So a few things I'd like opinions on. Was that even technically a date in her mind? I mean I thought it was since she asked me to go out to lunch and she was pretty dolled up but we never technically specified it was a "date".
Is she into me? I ALWAYS have to text her first but the fact that she has continued to talk to me all throughout summer must mean she is at least somewhat interested. She also said she would like to go ice skating with me sometime and almost came to a baseball game with me until she found out she couldn't get off work.
Lastly and most importantly....where do I go from here?! I really dig this girl and would love nothing more than to date her. I talked to a few other people about what I should do and so far all I have sent it one text a few hours after the lunch which said: "Had a great time at lunch with you! Next time dinner is on me To which I have not gotten a reply. Granted she has done this before with the no replying, being bad at texting, and has even stated she is bad at texting, but I feel that this one she definitely would have replied to if she were interested in me. My plan right now is to wait until Wednesday and see if she is staying in town for the labor day weekend and if she is try to catch a movie with her, skate, or something chill during the day and make sure she knows it's a date by stating she looks great, buying her ticket, etc. Then take her out to a small drinking gathering with my friends.
Alot of my girls that I talk to just as friends think she is just laying the heat down on me by not replying and evaluating me....I don't know about that though.