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Thread: fark Buddy vs Girlfriend

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    Default fark Buddy vs Girlfriend

    Hello there PUA-land!

    This is new ground for me so I need your help.

    I've been with this woman for a while now. We both get along incredibly well. Similar values, similar likes and dislikes. Mind-reading each other and shit. Great sex as well. Everything is spot on.

    Problem here. I definitely see her already has GF material. Treat her like so, for her to every now and then decide to be a bitch. She's been exclusive so far (and I've been exclusive as well), but she has said she'll eventually most likely fark other guys as well. Now, doubt I'm the only one around here that has a farking problem with having the same hole shared.

    It's a ego thing, in my head "I'll always be enough to satisfy someone". I wouldn't get hurt if she farked someone else, it'd simply end the relationship though. No hard feelings, no nothing.

    But: we really are great together. She thinks likewise. She's just always been afraid of commitment and she said she won't change that. I'm a believer in David X's saying "if I was her favorite actor/singer she would marry me just like that.". Excuses are bullshit! So guys, point here is "she won't change that".

    Should I stick around? Just for the sake of sex? Should I maintain my pride and stop this? One thing I'd never be able to stand: seeing herself with someone else in a committed relationship.

    Opinions?

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    Default Re: fark Buddy vs Girlfriend

    Depends on your mental fortitude. Girls say a lot of things, but most of the time they're just talking. If you're capable of pushing for a relationship without getting attached than by all means do so. You don't have to verbally bring up a relationship, but start doing things only couples do. Do things such as rewarding her good behavior and penalizing the bad ones that way she subconsciously tries to please you which in turn causes her to invest a lot more.

    If you think this sounds to tough though, just keep her on the side and continue gaming. If that sounds tough because you really like her, then either follow my first suggestion or just drop seeing her altogether until your minds in a better place.

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    Default Re: fark Buddy vs Girlfriend

    I'm in a similar situation, buddy. The sex is great, but I can imagine LTR with her - but I don't know what she thinks about it. She mentioned that she had fuckbuddies once or twice, and things like that - but I have no idea if she sees me as a boyfriend material, or is she has other guys like me right now.

    I've already fucked up moving forward to LTR after sex, so I now I have ti be careful. The sex is incredible with her, but I'm actualy very happy that tommorow, we won't gonna have sex because of her getting the period. So i'm planning couple shits, that I usually skip when I just wanna have sex: we go to see a movie for example, later, I'm planning to go skating a bit.

    I also try communicate in a less sexual level - no texting, but for example, I asked her opinion what gift I should buy for my mom for Christmas. I still doubt if I can actually turn it to LTR, but I'm trying.

    One of my buddy drew it up great: comfort --> attraction, and then, comfort again. For example, hair gel is attraction, hair spray is comfort. If you put hair gel in your hair, it will hold for a few hours, but after a while, it will fail to hold yout hair - unless you put hair spray on it.
    Bit of a feminime metaphor, but still work.

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    Default Re: fark Buddy vs Girlfriend

    Thanks for the replies!

    She's immature. I don't like immaturity. In the past the same shit happened: she only got emotionally attached to the guy when she lost him to another girl.

    At the moment I'm not being valued enough. And I know why, I even explained her this: not enough Push-Pull. I got tired of "playing games" and I tried to act different nowadays (if I want someone, I'll state that). Led to sex, led to us sleeping together for weeks straight.

    We'll supposedly spend christmas together and we've bought gifts to each other. We were going to spend new years eve together, just the two of us. So everything is "couple"-like and it freaks her out a bit every now and then. But she still does it, cause I give no option.

    I hate, absolutely despise the idea of not being enough.

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    Default Re: fark Buddy vs Girlfriend

    Get that out of your head bro. You are wayyy more than enough. If she can't see that, than it's her, not you. She doesn't want to commit because of commitment issues, not because you're "not enough." Maintain your frame, keep leading the relationship, and understand that you are the most important person in that relationship. Don't allow her to take control at any moment, and try not to get blindsided by anything. You have to decide what you want to do. Don't just hang in there and see where it goes because before you know it, she'll be in control.

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    Oh yeah I know that lilsting. I actually told her this: "in life you have two routes: you're either dumb and you don't value me - and in that case you're dumb, and I don't care about dumb people -; or you will end up valuing me as you realise you won't find better than myself, ever."

    But you know: if I do ditch her now, what are the odds I end up with her? Zero. And I still don't know if I want to be with her more seriously, I just dislike the idea of "not being a possibility" (I like to have an open mind). If I do stick with her, but start treating her more like a good fuck and avoid having much of an emotional attachment, I'll try out a new thing (what will make me grow as a person and as a PUA) and who knows where it will lead me.

    thanks bro,

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    Default Re: fark Buddy vs Girlfriend

    Life is a learning experience, isn't it? Lets try everything.
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    Default Re: fark Buddy vs Girlfriend

    I completely agree. I was just pushing towards you having to make a decision in which you did. Keep us posted!

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    Default Re: fark Buddy vs Girlfriend

    Women talk a lot of stuff. She might he testing when she says that she will sleep with other guys. If you guys work great together she sees it don't worry. You are worrying about something that has not happened. Stop over analyzing. Maybe she was cheated on in the past and wants to be clear that she will leave at anytime, that you have no hold over her.

    Be a freakin man. If she brings it up again, ask her why she brings it up a lot. Ask her if she already slept around while being with you. Maybe MAYBE she's feeling guilty. But more likely, she wants to assert her independence.

    After she tells you that she did not sleep around on you, tell her she could and that you would leave her. Make it clear that you aren't some guy who has women on the side. You both are exclusive even if just for sex so tell her you are honoring that. For her not to would be the end for her.

    And also don't forget to tell her that the opposite is also true. If you find somebody better, you would pursue her. And you would be honest to this girl if asked. Or even better, you would tell your girl that you have started seeing someone else seriously. Let her know how it would go down, how you would politely inform her and she will prob relax and not bring it up anymore.
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    Default Re: fark Buddy vs Girlfriend

    All you said, I've done. I'm not a retard neither a newbie. Thanks for the advice.

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