My girlfriend (of several months) asked me why I don't call/txt her more often. Its not like I'm going days without responding. Sometimes a few hours. We usually send a few fun/flirty/playful txts a day. Sometimes I won't call at night, and wait till the next day. Stuff like that. I always do answer when she calls. The reason I don't call/txt that often is that she is a very busy single Mom and a school teacher, and she doesn't respond that often as it is. That's what I told her, and she recognized that and grudgingly agreed.
Now, the general consensus is to not be overly available. Raise your value by building the image that you are a busy guy with many important things happening in your life with lots of people. Make her invest in you by trying to get your attention. So that's what I've been doing.
Still, you have to wonder in the back of your mind, if she doesn't have your attention, she can just go to some other guy and have his instead. Which is exactly the same thing us PUAs do when the situation is reversed.
So, how much calling/txting is too little? How much is too much? Where's the balance?