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Thread: Hb said she's only interested in talking?

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    Thumbs down Hb said she's only interested in talking?

    So I met this girl when I was in a LTR. I split from my gf. This girl and her are kind of friends but she initially told me it wouldn't seem right for us to get to know each other but we still talk. She tells me she's not interested in anything except talking yet I invited her to a party I'll be having in the upcoming weeks and stuff. she'll most likely come.

    What do I make of this? She doesn't initiate convos but she'll talk and engage when I message her but often falls asleep texting me at night. Then I must re-engage later. I can't figure this girl out. If she isn't interested why does she talk and why would she ponder the thought of coming to that party? Not sure how to play this. She ended up falling asleep on me last convo I haven't initiated since. It's weird since I know she creeps my stuff (FB, Snapchat, etc.)

    Any tips guys?

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    Default Re: Hb said she's only interested in talking?

    Girls LOVE to talk.
    Right now you're teetering on the edge of the "friend zone".

    She feels "comfortable" with you and sees you as a friendly guy who she can chat with.

    You need to start being more flirtatious, or you're gonna be stuck there.




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    Default Re: Hb said she's only interested in talking?

    I been flirting with her and she flirts back but it's so up and down she knows I'm interested for sure which I don't get what to do, since she's claimed she isn't yet will talk and potentially come to that party I'm planning...

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    Default Re: Hb said she's only interested in talking?

    You could be dealing with a firefly bro, a girl who is always just attracted to the next biggest brightest thing. As far as advice on how to get her I can't help you.

    To me it seems she is just using you for validation and someone to talk to, you are someone she won't miss until you are gone. I have a few girls like this I chat with every now and then, but I usually just ignore them as they are just wanting an ego boost or to feel better by talking to me.

    Aside from that, I find these types of girls tend to be generally a waste of my time as they are shallow and can't offer me any mental stimulation, but to each their own.

    Girls like this will start messaging you once you ignore them, but once you message them back its almost immediately game over. Next time you think of texting her, go out and get some new numbers, if you happen to see her in person smile and wave then just keep going. She may care that you are just ignoring her but chances are she won't, right now she has you right where she wants you, but like T-Mal said there isn't enough attraction there to keep things going, and unless you can see her in person there is little chance of building it back up.

    There is my synopsys and should be a bit more about what you are looking for.
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    Default Re: Hb said she's only interested in talking?

    Ah I understand so in short this girl is a waste of time. I figured she was looking for the ego boost but I wasn't 100% sure I mean she engages when I do. Yet I make all the initial effort aside from the random Snapchats I get from her on occasion.

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    Default Re: Hb said she's only interested in talking?

    I would see it as a waste of time, I mean if you never hang out with her, she isn't really a friend other than keeping her around to practice a new line there is no reason keep chatting. You seem to like her, so give some time for the feelings to die down and don't message her, ignore her texts and always smile and wave if you see her in person. That is generally how I handle a woman when it gets to this phase, but you might want to just not contact her for now and wait for some more input.
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    Default Re: Hb said she's only interested in talking?

    Yeah I think what I'll do is hold off on messaging her. She wasn't the party girl type which is what I usually go after which is why I like her. I'm going away from the party girl type. It's a confusing situation since she is difficult to read for myself. Maybe more input would make it more clear to see how to play this one out.

    On a side note a good friend of mine has a few of her roommates she wants to introduce me too and they are pretty good looking maybe I should occupy myself with them in the meantime? Can't hurt.....


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