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Thread: Does pursuing other women help or hurt her attraction toward me?

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    Default Does pursuing other women help or hurt her attraction toward me?

    I have a friend who I am attracted to and who seems to be attracted to me. It is impossible for us to date/be in a relationship right now because of a temporary (several months to a year) geographical separation.

    There are other women in my life that I am attracted to physically and would like to mess around with in the interim. Since this girl and I are not in a relationship (we are just friends as of now) would: a) my messing around ruin or harm my chances with her or b) her seeing me with other women up my value and keep the attraction neutral/improve it?

    I ask because she is a person who I see the potential for a long term relationship with and I would like to avoid burning the bridge if possible.

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    Default Re: Does pursuing other women help or hurt her attraction toward me?

    If there is a geographical separation like you said, then just put her on the back-burner until it's not an issue anymore. You guys aren't dating. Just friend zone her until you know it won't be an issue anymore. You don't have to tell her your seeing other girls, but If she asks you straight up, then be honest and tell her.

    Pre-selection is what it's called, & it makes you more attractive. It's an attraction switch, & a huge one at that.

    Social proof/pre-selection is pretty much all I use anymore to meet & hook-up with girls. But that's for another topic.

    In my experience though, if you're in the long game with a girl, or you have deep comfort with her & she sees you flirting or hears about you hooking up with another girl, not only will she get pissed, but it'll be a major turn off. Like you were playing her the entire time.

    When you're trying to accelerate attraction, & build it FAST for quick hook-ups, & one night stands, it will help you immensely. When you're in for a LTR with a girl, or you feel she actually cares about you & wants a relationship or acts like that, then it'll piss her right off. Some will seethe. Some will confront you about flirting with other girls. Some will just be passive aggresive & try to act like they don't care.

    Theres a fine line, & it basically comes down to when she gets attached/feelings for you.

    To summarize my post

    1.) yes hook up with these other girls or try to
    2.) don't tell her unless she confronts you about it
    3.) be very discrete when hooking up with these girls.
    4.) it shouldn't be a problem unless she's already acting like you guys are committed.

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    Default Re: Does pursuing other women help or hurt her attraction toward me?

    Thanks a lot. I am in sort of a small town and if I do hook up with other girls I assume that she would find out. Does that change the game at all?


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