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Thread: Ask her to be my gf?

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    Default Ask her to be my gf?

    So, I picked up this girl on my campus (I'm a senior, still have another semester left, and she's a freshman). I got her on a date, kissed her, been alone with her, haven't had sex yet but that doesn't matter here. Anyway, she writes for the school paper and has been busy the last week and this week. I only see her once maybe twice a week (it's going on 3 weeks soon). I'm starting to really like her which I don't like too much simply because once finals are done with, she's going back home to Long Island, which sucks cuz I live in Rochester.

    Anyway, I'm not seeing her again until thursday, and I was thinking about asking her to be my girlfriend, which I have reservations about.

    Questions: Is seeing a girl about twice a week at first not that much or am I just being a b!tch? Second, with the semester ending and her leaving in like 3 weeks, is it even worth asking her? (You know the saying, better to have loved and lost, not that I'm in love with her or anything)

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    Default Re: Ask her to be my gf?

    Dude! Twice a week at first is PLENTY. That's perfectly normal. I dated a woman for over a year and the first three months I knew her I only saw her once a week (even though we were sleeping together).

    In my honest opinion you're really jumping the gun on asking her to be your gf. I personally don't ask a girl to be my GF until I've dated her a minimum of 6 weeks (usually more like three months). You don't know her very well yet. You also haven't slept with her yet. I think it's a bad idea on your part and it won't go well for you, especially considering summer is coming soon.

    This is what you should do: Keep doing what your doing now until the end of the semester. Go your separate ways for the summer and keep in LIGHT contact. Perhaps you two can see each other once or twice regardless of the distance (maybe not). While your home for the summer talk to other girls and have a good time. Then when you get back to school start where you left off. After you hook up with her, and hang out with her for a minimum of a month when you get back THEN ask her. She should be dropping hints at this point as well.

    A few years ago I was in this same situation. I was dating a girl for about 2 months and summer was coming. I hadn't slept with her yet (My choice, I was being dumb and wanted to try something different). I asked her to be my gf and she said no then made up some excuse about summer blah blah blah. If I would have just banged her and continued to hang out with her she would have been mine. That's ok though, I don't even want the girl anymore and she actually started chasing me again the next year. I denied her.

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    Default Re: Ask her to be my gf?

    Thanks man. In the back of my head I knew it was a bad idea but I was gonna do it anyway. When i start liking a girl i start to become ungrounded and make bad decisions. But I'll do what you're saying and stop being a pussy

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    Default Re: Ask her to be my gf?

    That's very common for most guys. You start making decisions based on your emotions and not logic. That's when things fall apart. Just remember when you think it's a bad idea in the back of your head, it probably is. Be aware of your emotions and don't let them make your decisions for you. Cheers!

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    Default Re: Ask her to be my gf?

    Personally, twice is plenty especially when you've only been seeing her for a month. I wouldn't focus too much on how often you see her but rather the quality of time that you guys spend together. Be playful and fun with her but also show her that you have a serious emotional side too. Ask her about her passions in life, childhood memories, and what goals/dreams she has in the future.

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    Default Re: Ask her to be my gf?

    Thanks for the conversation tip to bring up about her passions in life, childhood memories and what her goals/dreams are in life..


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