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    Thumbs down Help escaping friendzone with my bestfriend!

    First of all I want to say sorry for my poor english in advance.
    The problem here is that I fell in love with one of my bestfriends. We've known for around 8-10 years and I've never felt anything for her since this year. We hang out often and had a great time, she's fun and a great girl, and doesn't have other guys chasing her so I thought, why not give it a chance?.
    We started talking more and more and I decided to tell her my feeling toward her, I was direct and didn't have her any present, I just told her that even though we've met for a lot of time I really liked her and other stuff, I didn't told her that I loved her or any thing like that btw.
    But she told me that because of that much time that we've known each other, she doesn't have the same feelings for me, even though that she also has a great time with me, and thinks I'm great and fun to be around, and lastly she told me that we could still be friends
    I don't know what to do next and really need help, is there a way to change her mind and start a relationship?
    I'll appreciate if you helped me,
    Thanks
    If you have any more doubts about this, let me know and I will answer on the comments...

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    Default Re: Help escaping friendzone with my bestfriend!

    Here would be some better ways of framing it:

    1) 'I can't be friends with you anymore. Please don't call me. I just can't see you anymore.' Here you completely make yourself unobtainable to her and without giving her reasons you bring it down to an all or nothing scenario. She has to choose between loosing you completely or sleeping with you. She would ask why of course but you could subtley let her know why e.g. 'your way too sexy to be my friend haha!'. Make it absolute but playful...not pouring your heart out crap.

    2) Joke around with her and say things like 'It's lucky we're just friends...we would make a great couple actually, we get along so well...you must like me because you're always wanting to be around me...but I could never date you...I know all your bad habits haha'. Again you disqualify yourself from her but have started to seed the idea of both of you together in a playful way.

    3) Start seeing other girls and tell her all about it. Don't tell her anything negative...only wonderful things 'I have started seeing this hot girl...it's amazing...she is soooo sexy and even her friends want to date me too haha...she is always pestering me to come over to her place...but I need a break...so that's why I'm with you tonight'. Test her jealously and promote yourself way beyond her. She will be very tempted to compete. You could also utilize the 1st frame aswell saying 'Ive started dating this hot girl...we can't hang out as much anymore'.

    4) Next time your together just start kissing her and ignore everything she says in resistence. Be persistent and aggressive (but not illegal!). Use physical clarity rather than conversation. After a few wines would be easier and possibly gives you an escape route 'oh I guess I was tipsy'.

    The big problem is you said out loud your interest and she has put up huge defense mechanisms. She is defensive because she doesn't want to loose the friendship and also because girls often get defensive when guys show too much interest like that - it's a lot of pressure especially coming from a long term friend. But will you be friends forever now you feel this way? By telling her up front you basically have said you are in love with her. It's far better in those situations to be bold and make it a courageous ultimatum or completely disqualify yourself from her.

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    Default Re: Help escaping friendzone with my bestfriend!

    Give it up man, it will only end in tears.

    Once you've friendzoned yourself there's no way back.

    Meet new girls and eventually you will forget about this girl, sexually that is.

    Just let her go and continue been friends with her, that's the most important thing after all.

    Joe

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    Default Re: Help escaping friendzone with my bestfriend!

    Personally, I would just disqualify her like what whitedragon said.

    Tell her "You're right we would never work (insert playful neg. - i.e. "you're way too dorky") Just be sure it's also true.

    Then just continue being friends and also use her as social proof then pick-up other chicks. Completely forget about her for a moment.

    And when she sees you with other girls it will trigger this emotional/competitive lady switch and then POOF!. She'll PROBABLY want you to be more than friends in which you can say "No" without actually saying "no" (do you get me? haha) and make her chase after you. If you still want her then, awesome. If you don't, well, REVENGE MODE! (Haha just kidding, don't do that.)

    The point is try to spend more time with other girls and everything else will follow.

    Goodluck brotha! May the force be with your game.

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    Default Re: Help escaping friendzone with my bestfriend!

    Stop what you're doing.

    Read my thread on how to slay the "friend zone"

    You're welcome.

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    Default Re: Help escaping friendzone with my bestfriend!

    You wanna know my full proof plan for getting out of the friendzone 100% of the time. Well try this. Next time your out with her alone. Stare her in the eyes and....pull out your dick.

    I hope this helps.
    "I've never seen anyone pull as quickly or as efficiently as you"
    -HarryRat(Simplepicku p)


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