I'll try to be as concise as possible. It's difficult, so please bear with me.
I don't have much experience on seduction, nor a nearly good enough theoretical knowledge. I tried last year to start learning & applying some materials, but the university got in the way.
I've been mainly focused on uni and self-improvement (some things needed/need solving and have been my priorities for a time). Two years ago there was a girl I think I could have had possibilities with; she gave me some signs, and was usually receptive. I rationalized not to pursue it, as I was dealing with some troubles at the time; after that, I regretted it. I had other opportunities after it, though; I still didn't pursue it as, in the moment of truth, I still rationalized it. I don't usually see her anymore as we don't have any more courses together.
Since, I've kind of used her as an ideal; you know how it works. Not excessively, though. Point in place, this is my last year of uni, and I would regret it very much if I didn't at least try. Circumstances now are kind of the best and the worst at the same time, and I need help planning what and how to do it.
I think a last window might have opened very recently. I have encountered her twice lately and that has allowed me to contact her without coming out of nowhere. The first time, I had to leave quickly, and it didn't occur to me to set a future date then. I tried to do it later on Facebook: “Hey, I'm really sorry I had to go and we couldn't catch up, coffee on the uni?”; she answered: “I'm not in the city now”, and didn't offer any alternative, so I just said “shame” in response. I know she truly wasn't here but... So that was that.
Today I encountered her again, in a group on the cafeteria. I was decided to fix a date so we could meet another day. I started talking with them (I also knew another of the girls on the table) and finally sat up with them for like around 15-20min; we all had to leave after for class. I didn't have (or couldn't create) a way to naturally bring up a date between the two then. So, yeah, I was farked.
I should say she is very elusive: she never initiates contact (doesn't say hi, or looks directly at you, if you don't first; she also didn't follow up on facebook any further than what I described earlier and, when in a group, will alternate between sheer enthusiasm and ignoring you and talking with girlfriends). This gets to the point of absurd; example: there was a presentation/seminar a week ago and I was asking a question; everyone was looking at me but her; it's almost as if she made a conscious effort not to engage (why? is she trying to dodge me or is it the usual trying to look uninterested?). Once engaged, she usually responds very well, though she doesn't “play” very much. I should note she is probably around a HB8 (don't know if you still use this), point being that I would usually expect more responsiveness/less shyness coming from a girl with her social capital and beauty. That makes me think she might been acknowledging my interest, and eluding it. I am usually not as clueless about this as I am now, but I'm truly confused by her signals and am worried that I could be interpreting a positive response where there are only objectively bad reactions out of wishful thinking.
Universe must be with me, because I encountered her, alone, on the subway. Oh, yes. 20-30min alone. Just talking. We got to my stop while she was telling me about her plans, so I interrupted her: “Hey, I'm really sorry - hand on her knee - but this is my stop... what do you do on Thursday?”, “I've got to study and...”, “Well, however it is, I'm gonna be on uni on Thursday afternoon...”, “...also classes.”, “...do you want to meet for one of those coffees...”, “talk on facebook?”, “ok, bye!”. Ok, how the fark do I transform this into success? How do I escalate from here? Is “facebook” an acronym for “it's easier to say no through a keyboard”?
The whole situation is problematic by itself. But, what's worse, I've got a shitload of work to do - and fast. I'm really really really busy, as exams start in two weeks and also have a project to finish. And I expect her to be too. But I must figure out if this is/would be/could be possible. Maybe strategize to freeze it somehow so I'm able to recover it after exams? I truly don't know what the optimal course of action would be.