So finally my dream of dating a white girl came true. So I am dating this 25 year old Russian chick (who we'll call RC) who I met at a speed dating event. She's a part time student & a bartender, a job she had for 5 years running. We've been dating for 3 straight months now & things are going good. I am Asian, 33 years old, and I came to New York 4 years ago from Asia. Like a lot of immigrant Asians, I wanted to date hot American women that I often see in movies back home. I have had several girlfriends before, all Asians, so it really was my goal to date American women (White or Hispanic). I wouldn't have been able to do it if not for the PUA tips so I want to share my story so maybe I can help anyone in the community. That's the short version.
If you want a detailed version, read along... I'll try to keep it short & straight to the point.
I have been reading about the PUA community for a good 8 years now & have used them successfully to date Asian women in my homeland but never really tried it on American women before. On my first year, I can't even speak straight at women without getting toungue-tied. I didn't have the courage to go to night clubs alone so I tried dating sites. That sucked, too much fake accounts & spam. I was lucky enough to catch a speed dating event coupon online & thought it a good opportunity to at least be comfortable talking with women. I wish I knew about speed dating events sooner as I would have gone earlier and had more time to practice. I only started last year & have gone to around 8 events. Thinking about it, I should have gone at least 2x a month.
Speed dating was a very good avenue for me to practice talking with women (and there were a lot of cute women) and be comfortable. I have to be honest, My first 4 events, NO matches. Even from ones I thought I had a good conversation with. Event 5-6 I got 3 matches, and none from women that I was interested. Event #7 I got 1 match from a hispanic babe. We were texting back and forth, I asked to call her for a date, she said she forgot how I looked & asked for my picture, teased her that she should send her first, she didn't take the bait, I know I lost her then so I sent my picture anyway, & got no response. No surprise. My 8th event was when I met RC. It was a big event, spoke to 30 women, & got matches with 2 Russian women (coincidence?).
RC had a beautiful smile & beautiful green eyes. That caught my attention first, followed by her low cut blouse that showed her cleavage (ha!). She had long blonde hair and she was wearing jeans, high cut boots, & a blazer that covered her blouse. She smiled & laughed a lot at my jokes. I started with my usual "Let me guess.." opener (Thanks Roosh V.) and I failed to guess that she was Russian. She told me loves baseball and loves a good conversation. I joked with her and tried to give her good vibes and the conversation went on smoothly for roughly 5 minutes when the bell rang & we had to move on to other people.
I checked online 2 days later to check my matches. RC and another tall Russian blonde were my matches. RC had her cell#, the other only her email. So I emailed the other one but didn't get a response. I texted RC and joked about her having other interesting conversations. We texted back & forth at night and around our 8th text exchange I said how I enjoyed our conversation & wanted to know how we can continue it further. She didn't text back until 10minutes after (probably evaluating if she wants to see me) and she said we should meet up. I told her great, set a date, and said I'll text back the next day for the venue and said goodnight. Always good to end the conversation first After that text, I literally raised my hands in victory hahaha! I can't believe I scored a real date with a blonde. My first ever interracial date. I know it's not a big deal for all you who grew up here but a victory for someone who comes from an Asian country. In the city where I lived for 25 years, I could only count by my fingers how many times I've seen Americans, mostly tourists, and would just stare at their bikini clad bodies at the beach.
As Mystery said, plan for a light & cheap venue so that you can end the date if it doesn't go well but keep a second venue to change when things go well. That way she feels she knows you longer when she's been in different venues with you even on the same night. It was still nearing the end of winter and I met her at the coffee shop. She was wearing a red sweater blouse/skirt thing with black leggings & boots. She was by the lobby and when she turned around, I didn't realize how pretty she looked. We met at a dark-lit bar but now I can see her completely. Her smile was still there & I smiled back to give her a hug (Another Mystery technique I believe). Hugging sets a good vibe & tone to start a date rather than a "Hi" and a handshake. We had coffee, good conversation about the speed dating event, travel, life, and other stuff that I will skip for now. Conversation was going great so I decided to invite her to the second venue to get drinks. She agreed, I paid (she's a student,she gave me a good time so $30 wasn't that bad) and we left. Outside the door I extended my arm & she automatically grabbed it. (Hooray! It works! Thank you again PUA community!) and we walked arm-in-arm toward the 2nd venue (walking distance away) only to find out that it's closed. I decided to downlplay it and said we'll just walk around the block and talk. We talked for a good 30 minutes and I jokingly told her that I'll bring her back to her place because I fear for the safety of the people she'll meet going home. She laughed and agreed. We took the train back to her place. When we got by her door, we held hands and we talked a few. I moved in a little closer during our conversation to "test the waters," she didn't move away. As soon as our faces were inside the "kiss zone" I moved in to kiss the top of her head, then the forehead, she didn't move, I kissed her nose, I did an "eskimo" kiss (rubbing noses together), and moved in for the kiss. Kiss close on first date! We then agreed on a second date and I left home with a big smile on my face. I couldn't help thinking "I did it!"
PS. Soo we met a few more times & did the deed on the 4th date. I am grateful for the PUA masters most notably Mystery & my current favorite Roosh V. for giving me a good blueprint to follow especially on the beginning date up to the closing game. I would not go into details as this is already too much writing but feel free to ask questions.
PPS. I am still planning to go on Speed dating events as I want to hone my conversation skills even better. Maybe this month I will try going out to clubs and try that as I have at least some confidence and practice going in. I would like to know wingmen who are interested in going out clubbing so ask away!