Re: Need help planning 3rd date and eventually asking her to be exclusive!!
stop overthinking things. she's still into you if she went home and thought about you and blasted into the internet.
if you haven't decided on what you wanted with her then just keep going with the flow. if you want to be exclusive then ask yourself if its the right time. sometimes the best way to figure out what you want is to figure out how she works. ask her things that challenge how she sees about committing to things long term / short term. things like... what do you see yourself doing in a few years? do you have any cats or dogs--how long have you had them? i find that most women who have people or pets that they have to maintain relationships with tend to look for committed relationships--unless they're single parents with a kid that's under 13 years old. those who have too much busy time usually don't look for committed relationships until they know that they've been doing it for way too long.
ultimately you need to find out who you want to be and who you want to be with. the only ways to do that is to look at what makes you happy, angry, sad and excited. i would wait to really ask her to commit to you until you've figured this out as well as understood what kind of person she is. to me it sounds like you two have barely gone on like 3 dates. i'm not saying you need to know more but you don't sound confident about who she is yet. if you were--you'd have a good idea of where you wanna take things with her. the only way to get to know her is to spend time with her doing a wide range of things that bring out almost every side of her personality and emotions.
Every moment counts, get out of your head and enjoy it.