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  1. #1
    9thclan1 is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default Is this even possible to fix!?

    So just to give a back story, I met this girl online on okcupid, we chatted and she gave me her number, she is new my city so i took her out and explore she was having fun, we were laughing and actually having a fun time, and the end I went in to try to kiss her but that failed, and i said "do you like me more then friends", so next day i texted her below is the convo.

    What should I do? is there a way to fix this? should i just tell her " let's just be friends "

    would really like help on this, i really had fun with her and will like to fix it with her

    Her:
    I dont think we will get along

    me:
    Really? How come I thought we were getting along well yesterday. Sorry about trying to rush it I'll like to take it slow with you and actually get to know you more. What do you say?
    her:
    Sorry no
    me:
    Oh ok, I thought it was fun, was this because I tried to kiss you in the end?
    her:
    Ya I didn't like that at all
    When you asked me if I like you more than a friend
    me:
    Oh man I knew it, I never I'm somebody that does that, this is what I get for listening to advice from friends
    How about you give me another chance, and I'm truly sorry for that I never do that, it was fun chilling with you and I hope you also had fun.
    Never*
    her:
    sorry . I hope you find the right girl for you
    me:
    Oh man your one tough cookie, but I honestly had fun with you, even if you just had a bit of fun let's still hangout. I just can't give up that easily even if it's just for one day that I knew you, and we did have a lot in common

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    Default Re: Is this even possible to fix!?

    Ok 9th I'll answer you because no one else will. Sorry if I have to be brutally honest, but sometimes you have to break things to fix them.

    You fucked this one up big time. Not so much because you "tried" to kiss her, but more because you apologized for it. Remember, as one pua has said this before:
    "A girl will forgive you for being a man, but she will never forgive you for being a pussy"

    Plus you need to work on your text game, Tmal has plenty of guides on this forum used them, do the work if you wanna reap the benefit, nothing comes easy.

    Your text exchange with this girl looked more like you begging for a shot to the pussy, sorry bro but very few ever came back from this mistake.

    I'll say cut your losses, save your pride.
    Nikee --Just did it--

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    Default Re: Is this even possible to fix!?

    What Nikee said.

    You apologized for it. Plus you stayed on that topic of being wrong for too long. It triggers the logical part of her brain.
    "Wait, he thought it was wrong too? Then I must be right. He is WRONG for trying to kiss me"

    Compared to if you apologized then shifted to another topic as if nothing happened.

    What I do in this situations is just burn it to the ground and amuse myself.
    I would text her something like:

    "Alright... I'll just kill myself and ask my landlord to feed me to the birds... "

    Then watch how she reacts haha.
    Anyways that's my style of amusing myself and my way of learning more about human behavior haha

    Find another chick. You farked this up not because of trying to kiss her but by chickening out after. Make sure you learn from it.

    Goodluck. May the force be with your game.

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    9thclan1 is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default Re: Is this even possible to fix!?

    ok thank you guys, i guess this is something i needed to hear, a few people have said to try just to be friends with her, should i try for that? or just cut it off completely?

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    Default Re: Is this even possible to fix!?

    Ask yourself. Would you want that? Fuck everybody don't listen to them. Don't even listen to me. Do what you want.

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    9thclan1 is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default Re: Is this even possible to fix!?

    Thank you CapPickup for the reply, I will personally like to go out with her, but damn looking back at it I really did fark up.

    If there was any way to fix it, I would do it. But the only thing I can think of at the moment is just to reset the whole thing. And become friends.

    Guys have any thoughts on how I can do that? Would love to hear all your advice this girl is really amazing and would love to go out with her, but I need to start small again

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    Default Re: Is this even possible to fix!?

    Cut your losses and leave. Come back in a year when you have more experience, and she's hopefully forgot about what happened. There is literally no way I can see you recovering from this in a way which lands you into her pants
    It's not a task, its a pleasure. Enjoyment reached from strengthening the foundation, not a new coat of paint.

    Oh, and getting laid is pretty farking awesome too!

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    Default Re: Is this even possible to fix!?

    You need to work on yourself and really get comfy with the idea that of who you are. Give yourself some value. Stop seeing women as ghe answer to your loneliness and enjoy your sense of self. If you cant be happy by yourself theres a really good chance she wouldnt be happy with you. If youre asking for her to validate you when you havent built enough rapport you need to look at yourself closer with more criticism and accept who you are and fully embrace your flaws and then move forward. If you valued yourself you wouldnt jump at any girl that was pretty--girls like a guy who knows what he wqnts--so be thqt guy who knows it by believing in it.
    Every moment counts, get out of your head and enjoy it.

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    Default Re: Is this even possible to fix!?

    Reading your texts made me sick. Like literally sick to my stomach. No, don't be friends with her. Completely drop and forget this interaction until further notice. In the meantime work on yourself. If you have questions, feel free to ask.

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    Default Re: Is this even possible to fix!?

    Move straight on and forget about her. You also need to learn signals that a girl likes you before kissing and take steps in flirtation to ensure she is attracted to you. Then they will never dislike you kissing them. They may think its too fast but they won't ever be fundamentally opposed to it.


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