Re: Where is this going? She is still in school.
johnnybob62 looks like you didn't take my advice into consideration if you don't understand why she's not ready... don't force it on her--you might screw it up. yes there is a chance that if you don't act on it now and put a label on it she might leave anyways--but realistically people who enjoy the company of others do not want to leave those who make them feel good. think about it.
the more you feel the need to have an answer for her not wanting a label the more you're going to get more negative emotions that will effect your relationship. the reason being is that you'll be getting too far caught up into this tunnel vision and unclear of being able to see that you are in a relationship already. what you can do is slowly define the relationship so it feels more comfortable to you with some ground rules because you're already so invested--if she doesn't want a label she's probably more than willing to hear your problem and solution if it's to benefit the relationship. so forget the label--treat it like you're already boyfriend and girlfriend... just don't bring it up. act natural.
as for things i said you should avoid... avoid everything that will make you do the wrong thing and lead the relationship to break up. i listed many wrong negative emotions, negative emotional states, and miscommunicated terms too because if you aren't in control of what you're saying to her and you intend it to be something else it's going to not help you at all. keep it simple and know yourself.
i keep bringing it back to this because to me the way you're asking all these questions it doesn't sound like you're really taking into consideration about how you should be looking at things--to me you're too focused on the prize which right now sounds like you just want to call someone who is already pretty much your girlfriend and you just want to be able to call her that in public it seems. nothing really wrong with it other than she isn't ready. she isn't ready because she isn't ready. it really doesn't matter what her reason is--if she's decided on it, you can't change her mind. all you can do is make yourself to be the best person you can be.
Every moment counts, get out of your head and enjoy it.