Re: Where is this going?
its more about reframing her sh1ttests... what whitedragon is talking about isn't about making her feel bad--it's about a painting a verbal conversation between the two of you so you both can find what you're looking for. you could call her out on it--but i don't think that would help as much as reframing. by reframing i mean you're adjusting her points of topics with yours so she can see that you're willing to talk about them and not let her set the rules of the relationship as you also have a stake in the relationship and should have some kind of say too.
Every moment counts, get out of your head and enjoy it.