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Thread: Help closing a girl right on my fingertips

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    Default Help closing a girl right on my fingertips

    I have known this girl very well for months, and although we have always had a flirtatious friendship, it has started to get pretty serious over the last month. Almost daily texting and more frequent physical play (no sex).

    I would really like to close and have her exclusively, but the big obstacle in the way is a boyfriend who she lives with and is clearly too nervous to leave.

    She is right on the tip of my fingers though, I know that I can have her, but I can't seem to close. I have tried a few different things, but to no success.

    My birthday is in two weeks and she has told me that she wants to stay the weekend with me. This is my do or die moment I think. What can I say or do to make her leave her boyfriend and make her mine?

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    Default Re: Help closing a girl right on my fingertips

    Have you tried running the boyfriend destroyer? I've heard it works pretty well though I've never tried it myself. It's basically making yourself look like the prize while making her bf look like a tool in subtle, reverse psychology ways.

    Don't text daily, create tension, make her miss being with you. What you do is text her something like, "See you on my birthday. I'll be by my room waiting for presents P.S. bring a jar of peanut butter" Then cut off texting, make her wait so that when she sees you this weekend it will spark up an emotion, a good feeling.

    Have you assessed as to why she's afraid of leaving her bf? Maybe the dude pays for the apartment or something?

    Don't think of it as a do or die moment, it will fark up your frame. Think of it as fun escalating moment. have fun while doing it, enjoy the process. The key is stop her from thinking logically and you can do that by saying one thing and then bam! saying another then divert, divert, divert and maintain strong eye contact. Spike her up with emotions it doesn't matter what, just make her feel something.
    Because what happens when she starts thinking logically about the situation? "I HAVE A BOYFRIEND I CAN'T DO THIS" compared to if she's in an emotional overload of good feelings with you.

    Then kiss her, if she resists just look her straight in the eyes and say "It's okay" or "It's alright" then kiss her.

    If she goes "We shouldn't be doing this"
    Say "I know. We SHOULDN'T be doing this" then continue.
    If she still says no. Don't force yourself. What you can do is a Freeze Out or just continue what you were doing in the first place (laptop, tv, phone, xbox) and act like it was no big deal. It will Take Away every good feeling she was experiencing before and in result she'll be wanting you to do that again.

    Good luck organicmatter and let me know what happens.

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    Default Re: Help closing a girl right on my fingertips

    Its easier to ask for forgiveness than it is to ask for permission. As much as you should consider boyfriend destroyer you also need to reframe your intentions to be clear. Consider friend zone slayer that kevin posted. It should help with extra ideas.

    It sounds like you know what you want and know her worth is worth this much effort but you need to know what she wants. The only way to do that is to be direct. Put it out there via body language--make it clear you are escalating physically with kink. Keep your words clear with strong language but keep her on her toes by breaking rapport often between buliding comfort.

    When you kiss it should never be too late in the moment of hanging out if you think you've caught all the signs. If you kiss without ever really talking about anyone's past with or current situation the more likely you can continue to escalate but you still need to pay attention to her queues. Everything is a green light until its red. She will likely enjoy your company and some of your touch based on the things you are telling us but there is a strong chance she will run as soon as you start flirting with her verbally about dating her or having her split up. Personally i think you should treat her BF like he doesnt exist. He is not your responsibility. Go in for the kiss when you've become extremely happy or laughing a bit too much. Create some sexual Tension by just gazing into her eyes until she breaks eye contact first. Most importantly LEAD... Do not force it but give her the option of recipercating. If she abides then you've got your greenlight.
    Every moment counts, get out of your head and enjoy it.

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    Default Re: Help closing a girl right on my fingertips

    Great pieces of advice here! Thank you, and I will be sure to keep this thread updated as things progress.

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    Default Re: Help closing a girl right on my fingertips

    In my experience, which I am not familiar with bf destroyer stuffs, I gave her the best sex she ever had and perhaps have multiple round with her that night.

    The hormones (oxytocin, endorphine, vasopressin...) produced by massive & multiple O I gave to her are great enough to get her addicted to have sex with me and eventually devote to me.

    At that time, she probably had dump her bf or I will ask her to do so and she listened.

    That's the best way for me, not sure is it for you though. But you can consider about this too.

    Hope this help
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    Default Re: Help closing a girl right on my fingertips

    I love the advice on this page I've had a similar problem and I think I'm going to try some of this.


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