Diving right in, I met this girl 3 days ago at my work orientation, long story short I K - closed her within 2 hours during the orientation, N - closed her and Made out with her multiple times, flirting was heavy.
Problem is I didn't see this coming and my lack of experience and even thought process is wrecking me here. I'm still new to the whole boyfriend - girlfriend thing, never had a real one that I got so sexual with. Very new I've really been reading and practicing to understand social dynamics and inner game, this is the furthest I've ever gotten with a girl on my own effort.
She's sort of really attached but I knew how bad my phone game was so I didn't think about later I just wanted to get in as much as I could in the moment. (Very beta I know)
I barely texted her first and second day ( I hate phone game, its very impersonal and I'm bad at it) She slowly started to get very serious very quickly bringing up her grandmother who's not well and how she's alone and I fell into it like a fool, and told her I wanted to meet her grandmother and that she wanted only to bring her future husband not some guy, foolish me thinking I had nothing to lose I said yes, she then got very need saying things like you don't even talk to me you barely even text me blah blah. Then foolish me again asking my natural friend he said I needed to tell her I'm vulnerable and I don't want to jump into things and so,( he didn't know I had that exchange with her about being so serious with her) stupid me again now its like I backed off completely, and she started paragraphing me over text after that.
It wasn't a bad thing at first cause she completely blew up and I had no idea what to say and my friend saved me there a little with some softening texts that I would not have known how to deliver.
and then things sort of changed, she got very serious very fast, like I cant get emotional responses over text unless its something very serious, deep and emotional. I told her I don't like texting and I want to see her and so she understands and wants to do something today I don't know what to do.
Going into pua I always keep my frame alpha.
But deep inside I'm a big softie on the inside. And now without warning its gotten to the point where I'm emotionally involved, which is what I was trying my best not to do, its tearing me up inside I don't know what to say I didn't think it would have gotten past day 1 so I squandered it all on stupid thoughts. She's only into talking about extremely deep thngs about her like abuse in the past, family, and I can't talk to her without getting hurt in each text she says now.
I'm sorry for I do not know what I have done due to my lack of experience , what is she thinking? Is there a way to salvage this?
What do I do and say at this point, I feel like its already over but she's still talking to me. I barely slept thinking of her I set my alarm and woke up this morning just to say good morning to her, and show her that I'm there, also if shes considering me such a serious guy , Do I need to big time boost the number of texts I send her throughout the day? All help is appreciated, thanks