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Thread: How to change the frame the girl sees you in...

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    Default How to change the frame the girl sees you in...

    I met this girl online a few months ago. We messaged for awhile and then she gave me her number unprovoked. Texting was sporadic but light and fun. She suggested a meet up. She was super cute but of course I missed every ioi. Over the next month we met weekly. We kissed several times but I never escalated.

    I work in the financial industry and have been very busy studying for some licenses needed for a promotion. I never really treated this girl like girlfriend material. Now that I'm done studying and want to take it further, the texts have stopped. She rarely returns my text. She finally responded after I asked her what was up and she said I'm awesome but too serious all the time. She doesn't feel like she can be "ridiculously silly" with me.

    I'm not a serious guy at all, just worn down from stress over the last few months. How can I change her frame of mind? How does a guy convince a girl he can be "silly"?

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    Default Re: How to change the frame the girl sees you in...

    Be fun. Say something like "yeah, I'm dead serious. Good thing that you're not a troublemaker, otherwise I'd have to wear my robocop suit and arrest you "

    Be flirty. By being flirty and fun, you're demonstrating a funny side.

    Oh, and by the way, whenever she brings up the subject of you being too serious, dismiss it like I did above. Or ignore it. Otherwise, you'll lose your frame. In other words, your PER will go down as a corpse

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    Default Re: How to change the frame the girl sees you in...

    Frame control. Look it up.

    Basically when you believe you're belief system is stronger than hers she will always fall into it no matter what.

    Very hard to put into words. Red Baron has a terrific article on the forums about it.

    Good example I can think of:

    Girl: I don't kiss guys on the first date.

    Guy: So if you were irresistibly attracted to a guy, he was charming, had everything going for him, you felt like there was an awesome connection between you two, & you were having a blast with him, you wouldn't kiss him if he wanted? You're full of shit.

    Girl: (whatever because now she's in your frame, will try to explain herself probably. May get offended, it doesn't matter because she knows she's not in control anymore and that it is foolish)

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    Default Re: How to change the frame the girl sees you in...

    You did great initially by having weekly meetings with her, I like the idea of that because it sets up routine of her looking forward to seeing and speeding time with you. Let her know you were working hard for the promotion, also find a way to say you've accomplished that without bragging. Next tell her you wanna celebrate with her. Then sets up a fun date like lazer tag then drinks after 8:00 pm of course.
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    Default Re: How to change the frame the girl sees you in...

    You can have ALL of the advice that you want but at the end of the day, you need to remember to always act in a way that is CONGRUENT with who you are. If you being congruent is not what she wants, you really need to move on! It will do you better in the long run.
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