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Thread: No move on 3rd date, am I being friend-zoned?

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    Default No move on 3rd date, am I being friend-zoned?

    Hi.

    So I went out with this girl about one month ago, on two dates, had a great time, long dates, we stayed out for about 7h each time, good chemistry ... at least from what I read from her, with a lot of touches, but ... no kiss.

    I mean I tried, but only once, and she tilted her head.
    Anyway, after the 2nd date she seemed cold, lost interest, and so did I.

    But somehow, she texted again last week, and yesterday I managed to convince her to come by my place, watch a movie and drink some wine.

    Even though I had this girl, in my house, in my bed, I still wasn't able to kiss her. Same story all over again. We laughed, shared stories, watched the dam movie till the end.

    What is bugging me is, there were a lot of touches, from my side, she wouldn't complain or be rejective in any way. All over her legs, hands, back ... but she wouldn't initiate any activity of such sort back to me.
    And I was completely puzzled of going in for the kiss, it felt ... unnatural, and for her unconfortamble if I forced the kiss.

    What the hell is this? If I got too close to her head, she would sit for a bit, then get up, I got up, she would lay back down, I lay back down, she would get up. Why accept to come over to my place, if she is so ... passive? I drove her home, went for a simple simple smooch on the lips, and she tilted her head.

    Am I being friend-zoned? Long time ago I was in a friend zone, but there were no such intimate touches. Any more intimate I would had to feel her ****y.

    How am I suppose to continue this? I am completely confused.

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    Default Re: No move on 3rd date, am I being friend-zoned?

    It sounds like the initial attraction was there, but maybe not quite enough comfort... and definitely lacking in seduction.

    You have to move from the "playful / boyish" mode & switch to the confident man. Seduction is all about exciting the senses... physical AND emotional.

    During attraction, make statements of intent & say things like "If you don't stop being so darn cute, I'm not gonna be able to keep myself from kissing you." *wink/smile.

    Once you get the kiss, it will put her at ease for further escalation.

    Verbally escalate as well. "I'm having a hard time keeping my hands off you... if you don't stop kissing me like that I'm totally going to start removing your clothes..."

    It's like little hoops & ladders, and future projections. If she doesn't stop, she's essentially giving you permission to continue pursuing. (Just ALWAYS remember that, if at anytime she changes her mind & says "stop", you stop!)

    Slow down, take a step back & go back to what she was comfortable with. Then slowly build the escalation again & build a little more comfort.

    You should have flirted with her & made a joke about her being "a tease"... and dared her to kiss you. Make it a little game... Then ramp up seduction.


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    Default Re: No move on 3rd date, am I being friend-zoned?

    A little more seduction would go a long way.. Laying in bed with you and being felt up is not friend zone by far. Maybe she doesn't kiss.. Give her some Kino during the date next time she will be warmed up by the time you reach home.

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    Default Re: No move on 3rd date, am I being friend-zoned?

    It sounds as though she likes you, but she's not feeling attraction towards you. I would start by showing her less attention and make yourself unavailable.

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    Default Re: No move on 3rd date, am I being friend-zoned?

    All great replies. My 2 cents here...I would initiate serious push/pull. I would go hot and heavy with the touching as far as she'll let you, and then immediately turn over and put her in what I like to call a "deep freeze." Then after a little while, if she's not initiating the touching, turn it on. Then deep freeze again. This makes you unpredictable, which is inescapably the essence of seduction.


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