My old way was to chase girls until I became a beta orbiter and I might have become one of this girl's beta orbiters.
I met her at a music studio that I rehearse at, recognized her buying signals, and number closed.
I shot her a text when I got home that night so she had my number. I texted her a little unnecessary rapport which I wouldn't have done. My last text I answered a question of hers and she ended the conversation there.
Fast forward a week and a half and she texts me "hiya." I managed to set up a date several texts later. We went on the date. She was nervous and so was I but I think I did a good job of masking it. There were some awkward moments but they were overshadowed by intense connection and a first kiss with that spark.
A couple of days later she texts me referencing something I told her about on the date. I set up another one. On this date my style changed and I think I stopped giving her space to qualify herself and put moves on me. I put moves on her but thinking back on it now, I would have let tension linger and let her chase on the date.
A few days pass and no text like after the first date. The euphoria from our make out session wears off and my gut starts talking. I hope it's just my old AFC needy insecurity talking but I don't know.
I text her five days later with some beta a$$ texts. Texts that showed too much interest in her. I didn't send texts like texts about her looks or "I had so much fun let's meet again right now" type of texts but ones that I sense gave too much. The overall text game was mediocre as well.
I told her to come check out my home music studio this Thursday (for no specific time) on Monday and she responds "Oof I wish I could but I'm working at another music studio this Thursday "
I know this means something and it's no good. Her interest level has dropped. My neediness erupted in me and called her a day later to set up the same date. She agrees.
She texts the night before the date with a picture that referenced the thing that reminded me of her that I told her about in my last text opener. That seemed nice. She also mentioned a really bad storm that was supposed to hit the day of the date and that she hopes we can still chill.
The storm hits and I call her and reschedule. I'm thinking that was bad idea and made me a chaser. I rescheduled for a week later at five.
The night before the date I don't get a text like last week. For all I know she forgot about it. But I don't know. I called her the day of the date not to confirm but because I had to change the location anyway. I called like we were on the whole time and she agreed.
She texts a few minutes later asking if we could delay the time and I okayed it with a time I picked. The weather actually does get bad again and she texts asking if we could do it another day. She suggests "Friday or Saturday or if we have to wait, that's fine too."
I texted back cocky funny leaving it at talk to you later.
It's been almost a week since then. I'm debating whether I should just wait for her to initiate again or I was planning on setting up another date on Sunday for Wednesday.
I'm trying to get a girlfriend. I'd like it to be her. I think I might I have messed it up by not taking in her interest level enough. Should I let her go or give it another one?