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    freestylpolaris is offline PUA in Training
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    Default Where Do I Stand/What Should I Do Now?

    I met this girl though a friend when I was a student in college a year or so ago. We loosely kept in touch then got together downtown for drinks after work one night now that I am graduated and back home. It went great. Date #1. Since then we have been texting daily which means for about a month. Long texts, never one word replies.

    Then two weeks after date #1 I asked her out to skate and then grab some drinks. She said yes. Date #2. Went great once again. She even stayed out later than planned because she was having such a good time with me.

    Then I asked what she was doing on the Sat of Valentines day. We made plans to get dinner downtown and again; drinks. This is the first time I picked her up (usually just meet downtown since she lives N and I live S). We both dressed up, had an awesome time. Watched some live music. Put my arm around her. Opened doors for her. Etc. Here is where I messed up. When I dropped her off I didn't go in for a kiss or anything....on Valentine's day. She gave me a hug and said she had a great time, thank you, and went on her way. We were both very tired but I still feel like I should have went for it. There just weren't enough signals from her for me to be completely sure but now that I think about it the worse that could have happened was her saying no and then I would know. Honestly I guess I was just nervous.

    The fact that she has gone on three solo "dates" with me, went out on valentine's day with me, and has been texting me daily for a month should be a BIG signal? but when out I feel like besides great conversation I am not receiving signals from her that she wants more (or perhaps not reading them). I feel like if something is not done soon I will be friend zoned (if not already).

    One huge issue is that we both live with our parents and have no where to hook up besides public places. BUT she has had her house to herself with her 30 yr old sister for the past 3 weeks! I guess unlike most girls I've hooked up with she isn't straightforward with what she wants (if anything).

    What should I do? We have plans on Sat to go to the bar strip with her friends and my friends combined. Is this a good opportunity? Or should I ask her on another date to make any sort of move? Did I blow it all on valentines day? Or should I not even be worrying since she texted me right after I dropped her off and we're still talking and looking fwd to seeing each other?

    Do some girls like to date before any physical intimacy (even kissing? Which we have not done yet )

    ***Note: every "date" we have gone on has been unofficial. I never actually said "this is a date". Sort of just implied that guy + girl + dinner + drinks = date.

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    Default Re: Where Do I Stand/What Should I Do Now?

    Are you building attraction or are your conversations just building rapport ???? Rapport with No Attraction = her new friend

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    freestylpolaris is offline PUA in Training
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    Default Re: Where Do I Stand/What Should I Do Now?

    I'd say 80% rapport 20% building attraction. Need to work on that. Before the valentine's day date I wasn't exactly sure how I felt about her but now I 100% know I am into her.

    Maybe I am being friend-zoned but I don't think she needs anymore friends. She has plenty. If she wanted someone to talk to she has more than enough girlfriends. Plus I don't think she would allow me to take her out on dates and see her every weekend if she wasn't interested. She isn't the type of girl to do that to a guy. I've been through my share of being fucked over to hopefully be able to tell.

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    Default Re: Where Do I Stand/What Should I Do Now?

    You need to escalate early to start having any sexual attraction and not get friendzoned. Start small and work your way as you reward her for her investment.
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    Default Re: Where Do I Stand/What Should I Do Now?

    Yeah, maybe I am just being impatient and over-thinking things. 3 dates/seeing her and talking for a month really isn't that many dates/that long of a time. I think v-day was the first night we both realized we are interested in each other more than just friends and was the first night any sort of escalation occurred (as little as it may have been). Baby-steps. I am going to push a little over the next week. See how she reacts. 1 month of texting each-other daily is a bit much for two people not dating; don't want to be just her texting buddy. Want her to want to see me.


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