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    Default Re: And I'm falling for my best friend....again :(

    Thanks man! I like the advice!

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    Default Re: And I'm falling for my best friend....again :(

    When am reading this am getting the laughs, I'v been in this situation to!
    And to be fair it ..... sucks d!ck! But you ain't getting any of it....

    Thinking of my very first time i asked a girl to be my GF and got rejected multiple times.....
    (Am laughing my ass of thinking of it cuz i thought the gentleman would get the girls...)

    Indeed the almost same situation,
    The girl (HB7) was always flirting with me, pushing and pulling me in.
    While putting me back on my place as her "best friend" and shit test me like 2 times in 15 minutes all day long.....
    I was opening doors all the time so i could get the IOI's

    Thinking back she was just playing with me, I was her little toy who wasn't a man eunuch to get her.
    She would take my hand sometimes, and cockblock me if i would try to get to other girls or even get mad at me.....
    But when i tried to kiss her i got a slap in my face every time.... (that still hurts)

    Eventually i was done with being a toy and completely ignored her, and started to play hard to get.
    She came after me like a dog with the biggest bone on earth dangling in front of him. But i gave her a leach so she could not get me any more.

    I found out at that moment, if you treat your girl like dirt she would stick to you like mud.
    But she (was) my best girl friend. I hope i never ever have to do it again. (bit of a nice guy nature)

    So i say its hard, but you gotta make a choice

    1. Go all in and be honest to her with the chance of losing her.
    2. Be best friends and leave it where it is.
    3. Go play yourself hard to get,
    4. Write reflections of yourself and comparing it with others on the PUA Forums. In this way you can pickup your mistakes you make. (always a good idea in any social training)

    But the most important tip is to be honest to yourself NEVER EVER lie to yourself, than you lie to her and to all other people around you.

    Yes i support the ignore idea but its risky dow, (the all in option)

    I hope you can pick something up from my story,
    with a bit of luck your girl :P

    Stay natural,

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    Default Re: And I'm falling for my best friend....again :(

    Quote Originally Posted by Gotcha View Post


    Indeed the almost same situation,
    The girl (HB7) was always flirting with me, pushing and pulling me in.
    While putting me back on my place as her "best friend" and shit test me like 2 times in 15 minutes all day long.....
    I was opening doors all the time so i could get the ioi's

    Thinking back she was just playing with me, I was her little toy who wasn't a man eunuch to get her.
    She would take my hand sometimes, and cockblock me if i would try to get to other girls or even get mad at me.....
    But when i tried to kiss her i got a slap in my face every time.... (that still hurts)
    The exact same situation with me...we are both pretty new to the dating/gfbf thing so we have relatively no experience (I'm probably thinking about this too much) our friend group went out drinking on saturday, and because we live in relatively the same area, it was cheaper to get a cab together. the girl i like and me had just seen our two friends make out and as we got the her house i gave her a proper hug (trust me there is a difference) her hand/purse ended up behind my head, either slapping me to let go or to push my head in for a kiss. I'm guessing i totally misread the signs because i apologised!

    Quote Originally Posted by Gotcha View Post
    But the most important tip is to be honest to yourself NEVER EVER lie to yourself, than you lie to her and to all other people around you.
    That is the best piece of advice I've got. I didn't admit it to begin with but when I did, so much weight have been lifted off of my shoulders.

    The next plan of attack, be my myself and because its getting hotter in london, a lot more kino and escalation based games

    thanks dude!

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    Default Re: And I'm falling for my best friend....again :(

    She's showing signs of attraction like primping (When women see a guy they find attractive they will primp themselves to make sure they look their best to catch his attention. Fixing her hair, checking her makeup, adjusting her clothing for a better fit, or sitting up in her seat) laughing at my silly jokes, accidentally touching me, etc. Could it be possible that I'm miss reading the signs?

    If so, apart from asking her directly, what would be a good way to make I'm not wasting my time?

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    Default Re: And I'm falling for my best friend....again :(

    I would say go out for dinner with her. Escalate Kino for sure with her.

    One thing I like to do is if you are crossing a road with traffic, grab her hand and rush to cross the road with her. You can say something like "we're not really waiting for this red light are we?" (just before you are about to grab her hand)

    If she's still holding your hand after you've crossed, you are IN my friend.

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    Default Re: And I'm falling for my best friend....again :(

    Quote Originally Posted by funkadesi View Post
    I would say go out for dinner with her. Escalate Kino for sure with her.
    What techniques would you suggest?

    Quote Originally Posted by funkadesi View Post
    One thing I like to do is if you are crossing a road with traffic, grab her hand and rush to cross the road with her. You can say something like "we're not really waiting for this red light are we?" (just before you are about to grab her hand)

    If she's still holding your hand after you've crossed, you are IN my friend.
    I like it. Have you used it before? As for the kiss, something low key or make a big deal out of it? I'm known for magic tricks. And because our relationship is in the centre of or friend group, will a rejection crack the group?

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    Default Re: And I'm falling for my best friend....again :(

    Quote Originally Posted by ajp101 View Post
    And because our relationship is in the centre of or friend group, will a rejection crack the group?
    Ignore this last section, I'm not letting a rejection get in the way of me and my friends.

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    Default Re: And I'm falling for my best friend....again :(

    Quote Originally Posted by ajp101 View Post
    What techniques would you suggest?
    - As you walk in to restaurant, touch her back as you hold the door
    - If she's dont her nails recently, ask to see her hand.. hold it, give her a compliment
    - there's ton of opportunities... without getting too touchy... always remain cool and look her in the eyes

    Quote Originally Posted by ajp101 View Post
    I like it. Have you used it before? As for the kiss, something low key or make a big deal out of it? I'm known for magic tricks. And because our relationship is in the centre of or friend group, will a rejection crack the group?
    Yes, I have and it will work if you've played your cards right prior to the walk. It depends on how comfortable she is with you. (since she's your friend... i am sure this shouldn't be an issue.) I wouldn't do a fancy magic trick for the kiss. If she's still holding your hand by the end of the night, you're good to go.

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    Default Re: And I'm falling for my best friend....again :(

    UPDATE: my exams have finished. I went out with the girl and a few friends for her birthday. I am pretty sure she likes me, she did seem to get upset when I was talking about my "arranged marriage" prank my parents pulled on me. Although she was drunk, she was pretty clingy to me when we were bouncing to the club. Once in, she asked for a group photo where she was pretty much clinging onto me for dear life.

    Nothing much happened after that, a few guys came onto her but I think she replied with "I have a boyfriend"(which she doesn't)

    I think she's scared to start anything because I start uni in September....

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    Default Re: And I'm falling for my best friend....again :(

    UPDATE: I actually dont have a clue what happened...we still see each other, since that last post from myself, a lot has happened that has had an effect on me. I've been acccepted into uni about 90 miles from my hometown. A few things have happened between me and the girl. It got to the point where the sexual Tension is through the roof...and then I made her really jealous and upset. We were at a party. (for reference lets call the friend V and other people Ly, J and L) I was socialising and talking to a new girl Ly. Why? Because I thought that nothing was happening between V and me. Ly was digging me, totally interested. I look left and talk to my two friends J and L who were both saying "Go on! Pull Ly". Trying not to be a oneitised by V, I carried on. I didn't pull Ly, but I should have. V was sitting there staring at me the entire time, trying to figure out what I was doing and asking J and L if I was going to pull or not. I know it's only been just over a week since that party, but she seems to not want anything to do with me. Why? Because I was talking to another girl and made her jealous, even though we aren't together? It's a messy situation atm, I really need to clean it up before I go to uni.


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