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    Default Re: The Guide: How to be charming.

    I was elaborating on your post because I agreed with it.

    Also, using a vibrator with your girlfriend is not a bad thing. There's nothing off with my sex game at all. Most guys feel threatened by bringing a vibrator into bed because they think it's threatens their manhood. If my sex game was "off" I don't think I would hear "that was the best sex I've ever had" by almost every girl I've slept with in the last 4 years. I never used to hear that when I was less experienced. By the way, I'm the one that suggests we get a vibrator and use it, not them.

    I agree that "90 percent is in her mind" however some women are harder to get to orgasms then others. You should know that. Some cannot orgasm with vaginal sex alone, that's a scientific fact. The more orgasms you give them the more sexually addicted they become. My current FWB gets like 10 orgasms every time we hook up so a vibrator isn't necessary. My last girlfriend had only one guy in her life give her an orgasm besides me. I was the first to give her multiple orgasms but I don't like having sex for over an hour. Using a vibrator helped give her multiple more quickly. All I have to do to make her horny is look at her.

    I'm not breaking things down scientifically either, I'm elaborating so newbies can understand better. I agree with the PUA marketing thing 100%. Guys are trying to make money, so they try and get others to "believe" their way is the best. When actually many ways work, and all the tricks are just gimmicks to make money.

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    Default Re: The Guide: How to be charming.

    good post direct, I believe a lot of guys who have only checked out "Mystery Method" are actually scared to give a compliment especially if they're really attractive, I too have once fallen into this trap and neg'ed the really attractive one's to get them eye-balling me, and it worked, but not for all women. Although showing no neediness is great, hiding your attraction for a girl can backfire more than actually exposing your true intentions. Guys often mistake showing a girl genuine interest and sucking up to her, as if they truly believe it is the same. Telling a girl that you think she has a beautiful smile yet you want to know more about her has a lot more power than asking her if her nails are real (a little neg from MM). This is a bit in-congruent though because I do take great pleasure in teasing a girl and I do knock off her Bitch Shield (if she has one) but the more I progress, the more I realize that most (definitely not all) of MM material is for dumb girls with low self-esteem who go out to clubs to get qualified.

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    Default Re: The Guide: How to be charming.

    the more I progress, the more I realize that most (definitely not all) of MM material is for dumb girls with low self-esteem who go out to clubs to get qualified.
    a little insight about mystery method:

    it was largely developed in L.A. southern California has one of the toughest dating markets in the us. most of the women there are sociopaths in pursuit of fame and fortune. that's why mystery advocated lying about who you are, with his "its not lying it's flirting" policy. its also why he used negs frequently, because many of those women have queen sized egos. he also used extreme forms of peacocking, because that's what it took to stand out in that kind of environment.

    while mystery has a good basic format for how seduction should happen, many of his "tips and tricks" are only going to work on brooding sociopaths with massive egos.


    the girls here where I'm at, are much gentler, more emotional and more feminine in their essence. a couple good negs and they leave the bar crying or they get mad and start yelling.

    some light teasing and a few compliments, and those same women are busy making me breakfast to go with morning sex the next day.

    its all about adapting to the needs of the situation, some girls require a softer touch than others.

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    Default Re: The Guide: How to be charming.

    Quote Originally Posted by meteora View Post
    a little insight about mystery method:
    it was largely developed in L.A. southern California has one of the toughest dating markets in the us.
    its all about adapting to the needs of the situation, some girls require a softer touch than others.
    Ahhh. Now I understand Mystery better... I thought he was a class act jerk. It helps to have context. Thanks for clarifying.

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    Default Re: The Guide: How to be charming.

    I read "game acceleration 2.0" a few days ago and it had really good points on why some things work for some people and why some people fail with the material that other people succeed with no problem. I liked the part where they talked about how an IT guy was peacocking and his game was worse from that moment on, the reason for that was because his personality didn't even suit peacocking. Imagine, a magician - it's normal for him to dress weird, have piercings, weird hair or black nails (Mystery) and now Imagine if a guy who worked in IT and dressed like that, first of all - it's weird because he isn't used to such a drastic change, he prefers more casual clothing, second - his personality doesn't match this new "style" of his, and nor his actions nor his verbal shit-test passing actually justifies why he dresses like that, when it's obvious to everyone that that's not "him"

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    Default Re: The Guide: How to be charming.

    Quote Originally Posted by Alergy View Post
    I read "game acceleration 2.0" a few days ago and it had really good points on why some things work for some people and why some people fail with the material that other people succeed with no problem. I liked the part where they talked about how an IT guy was peacocking and his game was worse from that moment on, the reason for that was because his personality didn't even suit peacocking. Imagine, a magician - it's normal for him to dress weird, have piercings, weird hair or black nails (Mystery) and now Imagine if a guy who worked in IT and dressed like that, first of all - it's weird because he isn't used to such a drastic change, he prefers more casual clothing, second - his personality doesn't match this new "style" of his, and nor his actions nor his verbal shit-test passing actually justifies why he dresses like that, when it's obvious to everyone that that's not "him"
    After 8 years in the game I can say that it all comes down to confidence. When you have it you can control the frame anywhere and everywhere, anytime and every time. To get it you need to be honest with yourself and know yourself then you can be 100% congruent and finaly at one with yourself.

    Who cares what the girl wants, It's about what you want. Women seduce men not the other way around.
    "The world will never change much less become what you want it to be. The only thing that can change is you. Face your fears, grow stronger and become what you want to be."
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    Default Re: The Guide: How to be charming.

    I agree, yet confidence is often confused with arrogance. A guy tries to act "confident" showing off, putting others down, acting arrogant only to make it seem as if he's confident when deep-down he's insecure and this is the way he handles his problems. Confidence is about being comfortable in your own shoes, not wanting to be anyone else, I don't remember where I read this but I really liked it - "it's not about expressing confidence, it's about being confident with who you are" (not 100% sure if those are the exact words, but you get the point).

    P.S. This is for the whole community, not just you xavier, I know you're aware of this stuff haha

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    Default Re: The Guide: How to be charming.

    I recently read a book by Jason alexander called " how to become an alpha male" . I have to admit that that book has helped me alot more then any of the pua books Iv read. I learned that confidence is the key to everything. I decided to stop stressing so much about girls, breaking down every fucken thing like it was a damn science and decided instead to just focus on improving myself. Ive just been trying to keep myself busy, doing things that I want and not things just to please others. Things like working out, reading and learning new skills. My confidence has improved alot and still growing everyday, now iv been noticing that I'm starting to attract more women. Only problem I have now is that I'm a bit of an introvert so I'm not a great conversationalist. You guys know of any good threads or books that could help on the subject?

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    Default Re: The Guide: How to be charming.

    thank you so much for the info, i will practice some of the advices


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