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    Default The Guide: How to be charming.

    Hey guys!

    I just had a great couple days with a beautiful woman who I'll call "Beth" and I recently ended a relationship with the best girlfriend I ever had when she moved to a different country. There's a few things I've learned over the last two years that have drastically increased my ability to keep the women I want. The number one thing that women want in a man is charm.

    Confidence is THE most important trait but without charm you won't keep the women you want. Allot of guys have confidence but no charm. This is why allot of guys, especially PUA's, can pick up women but they struggle to form a relationship with them. So what is charm you ask?? Good question.

    Charm is the ability to make a woman feel good about herself, to feel special, and to feel more attractive then other women. This is very easy to do. All you have to do is pick a girl you really like and tell her why you think she's so amazing. Tell her why she is better and more attractive then other women. Tell her why she fits into your standards. Qualify her!

    All these PUA morons out there tell guys to disqualify women and to neg the really attractive ones. Don't do that! These techniques only work on the hot stupid club girls and you don't want those stupid chicks anyways. You want the smart hot ones! If you disqualify the women who are truly good girlfriend material you can screw yourself over. It's always best to qualify them. Tell them why they fit into your high standards. Example: I leaned over and smelled Beth. I pulled back and I looked deep into her eyes and said "You smell amazing. I've been with attractive women who's natural body odor don't smell good to me. You smell great and that tells me you're a good genetic match. How a woman smells is very important to me." That's how you qualify a woman in a charming fashion.

    Compliment, compliment, compliment!
    If your with an attractive women that you want, compliment her! Women love compliments! It makes them feel good about themselves and it makes them feel good around you! This is what you want! Tell her why she's so amazing. If you can't come up with a bunch of genuine compliments to give her then your wasting your time with the wrong woman. Compliment her personality and compliment her on her looks, then tell her that the traits she possess are hard to find, and that you look for those traits in a woman. Make her feel special!

    I picked up Beth from the train station and gave her a big hug. We then started walking to my car. I put my hand on her lower back then leaned back and stared at her ass. I made it very obvious what I was doing. The conversation follows
    Her: What are you doing?
    Me: Checking out your ass
    Her: (laughs/smiles) what do you think?
    Me: I think it looks amazing (Big smile)!

    I hadn't even kissed this girl yet! That's how you compliment a woman and make her feel good. If she has a nice ass or boobs look at them. If she asks you what your doing tell her what your doing, then tell her how awesome they look!

    Women always complain that men don't talk about their feelings enough. They don't want you to tell them everything or what things your afraid of. They want you to tell them how they make you feel! That's all they want and most men never do it. Tell the girl you're with how they make you feel, how sexy they are, and that they make you hard every time you see them. Be charming!

    The last thing on my list is making sure your girl is comfortable and safe. This is the biggest thing that prevents guys from getting a girl or from hanging on to a girl. This is very simple. All you need to do is be chivalrous when it's convenient for you. If you sit down and she's going to sit next to you pull her chair out for her. Don't run all the way across the room to do something chivalrous but if your already right there do it! If your girl says she's cold put your arm around her but don't give her your coat if that would make you cold. See what I'm saying? Hold her hand when you guys cross a busy street. The biggest thing Beth didn't like about her last boyfriend (and why she broke up with him) is that he wouldn't look back to see if she was ok after they crossed a busy road, and when she made an effort to look nice for him he wouldn't say anything about it. It really is the little things that matter most to women.

    Another big thing is making sure she's safe. One of the things I do that women love is make sure they got home safe. When I brought Beth to the train station I waited with her until she boarded the train then I told her "text me when you get home". That's it. Women like it when you make sure they get home ok. I won so many points with her by making sure she got onto the train and wanting her to text me when she got home. It's really that simple.

    Let's revisit compliments. I want to share with you the compliment that made Beth blush the most when I was with her so you get an idea how bold you can be with your compliments. I was driving her to the train station and I stopped to take a piss at the gas station. When I was taking a piss I noticed my balls were really sore and my lower stomach hurt. I had blue balls! I went back to my car and said.
    Me: I think I have f*cking blue balls.
    Her: What?! How?! I didn't even touch your d!ck!
    Me: I know but you make me so horny.
    Her: Well I guess I'll take that as a compliment that my body looks good.
    Me: It's not just your body. It's the way you smell, the way you move, your mannerisms and your personality. F*ck I'm getting hard thinking about it.
    Her: (Blushing) OMG Direct! I'm turning the music on!

    That's how to be charming!

    When you get really good at these things you can just tell by how the women around you act. They don't know what to do! I always ask them "you've never had a man talk to you like this before have you" and they say "No I haven't" or "No, none of my other boyfriends ever gave me many compliments. I'm not used to it". I didn't f-close Beth but I know it's going to happen. We made out and she constantly asked me "what are you thinking?". When a woman asks you what you're thinking you have a big hook in her indeed. You do this by being charming. Cheers!

    -Direct

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    Default Re: The Guide: How to be charming.

    Nice tips,this should be your second nature
    Her flaws are the very things that make her beautiful.

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    Default Re: The Guide: How to be charming.

    Sticky this Sh!t! This is a bomb ass guide!

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    Default Re: The Guide: How to be charming.

    I fucking love it, I fucking love you ! you never sees to amaze me my friend you are, like me, a natural that's what all amateurs should aspire to be.
    "The world will never change much less become what you want it to be. The only thing that can change is you. Face your fears, grow stronger and become what you want to be."
    _Xavier.

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    Default Re: The Guide: How to be charming.

    And I am assuming this 'Qualifying' thing comes After you've build enough rapport with her and NOT in the early stages right ?? Because in that case it will come off as needy (as all the guys hitting on her compliment her)

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    Default Re: The Guide: How to be charming.

    Quote Originally Posted by Sam981 View Post
    And I am assuming this 'Qualifying' thing comes After you've build enough rapport with her and NOT in the early stages right ?? Because in that case it will come off as needy (as all the guys hitting on her compliment her)
    First of all, not all guys that hit on a woman compliment them. Also, the needy guys compliment a woman to "try and get her". A confident guy gives a woman a genuine compliment expecting nothing in return. There's a huge difference here.

    Although you can compliment a woman right when you meet her, and I've seen it done successfully on youtube many times, I've never been able to pull off this type of direct approach myself. To qualify them successfully you need to have gained enough rapport to know something about them that you like so you can give them a genuine compliment. This can take as little as 5-10 minutes of conversation.

    This post is more about "keeping" a girl that you've started seeing, not really on picking up women. You should start doing these things on the first "date" and continue to do them.

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    Default Re: The Guide: How to be charming.

    Quote Originally Posted by DirectIsBest View Post
    First of all, not all guys that hit on a woman compliment them. Also, the needy guys compliment a woman to "try and get her". A confident guy gives a woman a genuine compliment expecting nothing in return. There's a huge difference here.

    Although you can compliment a woman right when you meet her, and I've seen it done successfully on youtube many times, I've never been able to pull off this type of direct approach myself. To qualify them successfully you need to have gained enough rapport to know something about them that you like so you can give them a genuine compliment. This can take as little as 5-10 minutes of conversation.

    This post is more about "keeping" a girl that you've started seeing, not really on picking up women. You should start doing these things on the first "date" and continue to do them.
    Alright I get it. Coincidently I am reading a book these days called "How to Influence People and Make New Friends". It emphasizes the same concept that how much we ignore to compliment people that are close to us. And the author empasizes this not only to gf but everyone we interact; our friends, family members, parents, coworkers, employees etc. Its strange how sometimes we ignore very basic things such as showing sincere appreciation.

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    Default Re: The Guide: How to be charming.

    I read the title of your post and was like here we go again another nerd shit. Actually what you wrote is on point. You have my like.

    You are being charming while BEING A MAN.
    Also you are making woman safe.

    Though two things I would at to this post and you'll have a perfect guide to charm and having a long lasting relationship (I am talking a loving one not the pimping stuff where I own a girl):

    1) You must give her good sex. What I mean by that when you are fucking her hold eye contact and let her feel SHE ROCKS YOUR WORLD (This in itself can be a 100 page essay to discuss)
    2) LET HER TAKE CARE OF YOU. Encourage her to cook for you and tell her how much it makes you happy when she does it for example

    3) From time to time BE UNPREDICTABLE...This can be done in a sweet way like she wakes up and you may have a small breakfast ready for her. Or even sending a flower at her work (This is FOR RELATIONSHIP not seduction)
    or in a teasing way like created some drama with her. Easiest way is to learn to say NO! or just be focused at something other than her when you are together (This should be used like small spices you throw in a small dish)

    If a women feels she has you 100% the PASSION WILL DIE.

    To avoid this:

    4) Keep small things about yourself hidden from her. Maybe something in your past. This is not done because you are a bad person and abusive but because women LOVE figuring out a mystery.



    5) Talk about the FUTURE together. Build beautiful images of the future together. Talk about trips you might take.
    Women are emotional and great imagination sexy creatures and she will Love you for that.

    Pimpin'Scout

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    Default Re: The Guide: How to be charming.

    Quote Originally Posted by Pimpin'Scout View Post
    1) You must give her good sex. What I mean by that when you are fucking her hold eye contact and let her feel SHE ROCKS YOUR WORLD (This in itself can be a 100 page essay to discuss)
    2) LET HER TAKE CARE OF YOU. Encourage her to cook for you and tell her how much it makes you happy when she does it for example

    3) From time to time BE UNPREDICTABLE...This can be done in a sweet way like she wakes up and you may have a small breakfast ready for her. Or even sending a flower at her work (This is FOR RELATIONSHIP not seduction)
    or in a teasing way like created some drama with her. Easiest way is to learn to say NO! or just be focused at something other than her when you are together (This should be used like small spices you throw in a small dish)
    I agree. Giving her good sex is important, and if you're a guy that can't go very long, bring a vibrator into bed with you. In fact, go vibrator shopping with your girlfriend! They love it! They can get all warmed up then you can finish them off (I have no problem with longevity myself, but I always go vibrator shopping with my girlfriends. It's the smart thing too do). The eye contact thing is definitely spot on as well. Women feel more of a connection when you look into their eyes when you have sex.

    Letting her take care of you is also a good one. I love it when women cook for me. My last girlfriend started cooking for me and I kept telling her how sexy she was when she cooked for me. Before I knew it she was cooking me breakfast and dinner every time she came over. She even brought all the groceries! I always told her how much I liked her food, and I always gave her allot of attention while she was cooking it, and told her how sexy she was (this wasn't a lie, I really think a woman is sexy when she cooks for me).

    The unpredictability part is easy. You only have to THINK about being unpredictable when you're afraid of "messing something up". If you have a great relationship, and you feel worthy of the girl you're with, you will be naturally unpredictable to her. That's because you will tell her no, not do things when you don't feel like it, and do things when you feel like it. That's being unpredictable.

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    Default Re: The Guide: How to be charming.

    Quote Originally Posted by DirectIsBest View Post
    I agree. Giving her good sex is important, and if you're a guy that can't go very long, bring a vibrator into bed with you. In fact, go vibrator shopping with your girlfriend! They love it! They can get all warmed up then you can finish them off (I have no problem with longevity myself, but I always go vibrator shopping with my girlfriends. It's the smart thing too do). The eye contact thing is definitely spot on as well. Women feel more of a connection when you look into their eyes when you have sex.

    Letting her take care of you is also a good one. I love it when women cook for me. My last girlfriend started cooking for me and I kept telling her how sexy she was when she cooked for me. Before I knew it she was cooking me breakfast and dinner every time she came over. She even brought all the groceries! I always told her how much I liked her food, and I always gave her allot of attention while she was cooking it, and told her how sexy she was (this wasn't a lie, I really think a woman is sexy when she cooks for me).

    The unpredictability part is easy. You only have to THINK about being unpredictable when you're afraid of "messing something up". If you have a great relationship, and you feel worthy of the girl you're with, you will be naturally unpredictable to her. That's because you will tell her no, not do things when you don't feel like it, and do things when you feel like it. That's being unpredictable.

    Your understanding of great sex is wrong. If you need to buy vibrators there is something off in your sex game. Hint: " In it is 90%l in her mind". Your fingers should be the only vibrator she needs. If they love TO GO BUY a vibrator with you then I feel sorry for you man .
    It is equivalent of a girl getting you a flesh light.

    You repeated my words in the unpredictable part. I quote: "That's because you will tell her no, not do things when you don't feel like it, and do things when you feel like it. That's being unpredictable."

    I said : " Just say No". This by the way is helping understand why people here can't get my communication. You like things to be broken to a science and a number of steps. Bu this is seduction not a math problem.

    A great seducer is always AWARE of his woman's emotions. Being able to understand how she feels and reading her perfectly is a very important. THIS has nothing to do with feeling worthy or any of that shit.

    See this is what usually happens. A great man meets a girl. The girl loves his looks and confidence. They start to date. And get in a relationship. After a couple of month it goes bad.

    Does this have to do anything with feeling worthy?
    NOPE! this is because the man felt TOO COMFORTABLE and too Worthy he is like who cares I am getting the pussy. BUT the women NEVER stops testing. She needs to do it at her core. She will do ALL In her ability to Tame you. IF she isn't she is either cheating on your ass or waiting for her prince charming to come.Yes the test will be very little and less frequent if you are the real deal. You wont even notice they happened and you passed them because you are REAL MAN. Also the girl will be more patient if she is the good hearted girl type.
    but if your balls are still made of glass it is good to be aware of that.

    "When a girl says the spark is dying"...It means you have failed so many tests with me. You don't care.
    In one post I stated I sometimes call a girl on her shit and some got offended. Usually that same night the girl's pussy is as wet as a niagra fall.

    And as I have seen on this forum the people here have weak character. This means THE don't even know where their boundaries are when relating with girls. SO in that case they will have to manually try to figure it out.
    How ? When you fail a test she will gladly let you know

    Number 4 and 5 in my list are also some of the most powerful. If I showed my list to another veteran of seduction they will tell you that 4 and 5 are the keys to actually owning a girl. Yes literally owning and getting her to worship you and be submissive to you.
    4 and 5 are one of he reasons why good sex Can happen.

    I threw 4 and 5 as a test. To see at what level players are here at. (red has been begging for mind control advice... I just gave you two...Well I gave you the sword ..If you don't know how to use it DON"T..Ull cut yourself)

    Anyways you seem to be one of the few here actually getting action and you are aware of the Pua bullshit. I recently learned what a Pua is and checked the book the GAY-ME by the bold head after a guy send me the book. I thought it was a fiction book and a joke. Then I discover people believe that shit ....
    But Pua are nice people. THEY always will pay my bitch in the morning as long as it appears t their friends/students they actually seduced her.

    You people have no idea how fake those marketers are and how many time my agency got requests for models for an acting job .....This includes:
    1)Being filmed in clubs getting seduced..ETC..

    Anyways I went Off topic:
    It is SIMPLE: "MASCULINE ATTRACTS FEMININE".
    And you were masculine and charming. Good post.

    Happy Hunting,
    Pimpin'Scout


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