I just had a great couple days with a beautiful woman who I'll call "Beth" and I recently ended a relationship with the best girlfriend I ever had when she moved to a different country. There's a few things I've learned over the last two years that have drastically increased my ability to keep the women I want. The number one thing that women want in a man is charm.
Confidence is THE most important trait but without charm you won't keep the women you want. Allot of guys have confidence but no charm. This is why allot of guys, especially PUA's, can pick up women but they struggle to form a relationship with them. So what is charm you ask?? Good question.
Charm is the ability to make a woman feel good about herself, to feel special, and to feel more attractive then other women. This is very easy to do. All you have to do is pick a girl you really like and tell her why you think she's so amazing. Tell her why she is better and more attractive then other women. Tell her why she fits into your standards. Qualify her!
All these PUA morons out there tell guys to disqualify women and to neg the really attractive ones. Don't do that! These techniques only work on the hot stupid club girls and you don't want those stupid chicks anyways. You want the smart hot ones! If you disqualify the women who are truly good girlfriend material you can screw yourself over. It's always best to qualify them. Tell them why they fit into your high standards. Example: I leaned over and smelled Beth. I pulled back and I looked deep into her eyes and said "You smell amazing. I've been with attractive women who's natural body odor don't smell good to me. You smell great and that tells me you're a good genetic match. How a woman smells is very important to me." That's how you qualify a woman in a charming fashion.
Compliment, compliment, compliment! If your with an attractive women that you want, compliment her! Women love compliments! It makes them feel good about themselves and it makes them feel good around you! This is what you want! Tell her why she's so amazing. If you can't come up with a bunch of genuine compliments to give her then your wasting your time with the wrong woman. Compliment her personality and compliment her on her looks, then tell her that the traits she possess are hard to find, and that you look for those traits in a woman. Make her feel special!
I picked up Beth from the train station and gave her a big hug. We then started walking to my car. I put my hand on her lower back then leaned back and stared at her ass. I made it very obvious what I was doing. The conversation follows
Her: What are you doing?
Me: Checking out your ass
Her: (laughs/smiles) what do you think?
Me: I think it looks amazing (Big smile)!
I hadn't even kissed this girl yet! That's how you compliment a woman and make her feel good. If she has a nice ass or boobs look at them. If she asks you what your doing tell her what your doing, then tell her how awesome they look!
Women always complain that men don't talk about their feelings enough. They don't want you to tell them everything or what things your afraid of. They want you to tell them how they make you feel! That's all they want and most men never do it. Tell the girl you're with how they make you feel, how sexy they are, and that they make you hard every time you see them. Be charming!
The last thing on my list is making sure your girl is comfortable and safe. This is the biggest thing that prevents guys from getting a girl or from hanging on to a girl. This is very simple. All you need to do is be chivalrous when it's convenient for you. If you sit down and she's going to sit next to you pull her chair out for her. Don't run all the way across the room to do something chivalrous but if your already right there do it! If your girl says she's cold put your arm around her but don't give her your coat if that would make you cold. See what I'm saying? Hold her hand when you guys cross a busy street. The biggest thing Beth didn't like about her last boyfriend (and why she broke up with him) is that he wouldn't look back to see if she was ok after they crossed a busy road, and when she made an effort to look nice for him he wouldn't say anything about it. It really is the little things that matter most to women.
Another big thing is making sure she's safe. One of the things I do that women love is make sure they got home safe. When I brought Beth to the train station I waited with her until she boarded the train then I told her "text me when you get home". That's it. Women like it when you make sure they get home ok. I won so many points with her by making sure she got onto the train and wanting her to text me when she got home. It's really that simple.
Let's revisit compliments. I want to share with you the compliment that made Beth blush the most when I was with her so you get an idea how bold you can be with your compliments. I was driving her to the train station and I stopped to take a piss at the gas station. When I was taking a piss I noticed my balls were really sore and my lower stomach hurt. I had blue balls! I went back to my car and said.
Me: I think I have f*cking blue balls.
Her: What?! How?! I didn't even touch your d!ck!
Me: I know but you make me so horny.
Her: Well I guess I'll take that as a compliment that my body looks good.
Me: It's not just your body. It's the way you smell, the way you move, your mannerisms and your personality. F*ck I'm getting hard thinking about it.
Her: (Blushing) OMG Direct! I'm turning the music on!
That's how to be charming!
When you get really good at these things you can just tell by how the women around you act. They don't know what to do! I always ask them "you've never had a man talk to you like this before have you" and they say "No I haven't" or "No, none of my other boyfriends ever gave me many compliments. I'm not used to it". I didn't f-close Beth but I know it's going to happen. We made out and she constantly asked me "what are you thinking?". When a woman asks you what you're thinking you have a big hook in her indeed. You do this by being charming. Cheers!