The number one mistake I made in my search for a girlfriend is not being concerned with myself and what I love. And tried to make myself attractive according to her standards. Then I am not happy upbeat or confident because I couldn't give a shit about poetry and all that BS or being story telling or joke telling. Also all that work was laborious and not fun. Instead focus on something you like to do and gett really passionate about it and master it.
Girls love a man with passion and they love a man they can brag about. What your passion is not as important as the fact that you have a passion other than her. Girls want a BF that is confident whole on the inside and knows where he is going.
Girls love to brag to their friends.
My guy is beefcake.
My guy can play the guitar
My guy can play the piano
Well my guy is smarter than all 3 of your guys put together.
you know the old saying be yourself. Find what you love work on what you like beget good at it and the woman of your dreams will come to you. That hot girl over may be someone you want to have sex with but if you have to change who you are to get her she is not GF material Eventually you will be unhappy and get bored of eachother fast. Don't change yourself improve yourself. So if you are funny improve your humor if you are smart improve your intelligence. Focus on yourself not her then find ways to use your strengths.
Example I am tri lingual (Spanish Portuguese English) I see an attractive Portuguese or Brazilian girl at the bar my crush is near by. I approach the Brazilian girl and after introduction I start talking in Portuguese. Boom right off the bat this girl will probably be blown away and egar to talk unless she is in a bad mood or something because the number of guys in the U.S. That speak Portuguese is slim to none. So you are something new and fresh. You crush sees value in my talent and wonder why she wasn't approached and sees another girl interested. Keep the conversation short and don't give it a chance to get dull. I just made an impression on two girls at once.
This is an extravagant example but one that proves the point.
Everyone has talent and passion but not everyone has character. Find your passion and talent and build your character based on that and I promise you you will do better with girls.