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    Default Need Help Winning Over Girl Who Just Got Dumped By BF Of 4 Years

    I met her in a bar about 2 months ago. As I left and got in my friend's car I hear a voice yell "Bye cutie!!!" I tell myself I'm an idiot for not getting her number at the bar but chalk it up and tell myself I'll see her again sometime or just do the typical Facebook add. She beats me to it. Adds me on Facebook that night around 3am and sends me a message telling me to text her. I do. Some small talk and flirting, she falls asleep.

    I figure great, this girl is definitely into me, try to get her to come out with me to a party happening that weekend after some small talk but no reply, just goes cold on me. This goes on and off for about a month or so and I finally give up, delete her number, and move on. Then she sees me at a music festival and text messages me a few days later telling me she wasn't sure it was me but wish she would have said Hey. I figure she's going to pull the same shit again so I keep it short and try to ignore her.

    Then she texts me 4x in a row throughout 2 different days because I didn't reply to her right away, 2x at 12:30am and 1:00am when she knows I have work in the early mornings. So things start to click and I now know she craves attention and goes nuts when it's not given to her. I continue some small talk throughout the weekend, tell her I'm going to a baseball game and she's welcome to come with. She seemed interested but has work. Ok whatever. I give it no more attention and continue partying. Since I didn't reply to her again she shoots me another text and that's where things currently stand. I plan on getting back to her late tomorrow to make her wait a bit, maybe even get lucky and she goes so stir-crazy she texts me again. Side-note, I hate texting games, and making a girl feel like shit but at this point it's the only thing working with her.

    I did some Facebook creeping and found out her and her boyfriend dated for 4 years, their entire college career. I also find out they are not friends anymore even on Facebook so the breakup must've been bad. Things start to make more sense. She's afraid to let another guy in, doing the typical "go out with the girls/girls nights/I don't need a man in my life to be happy" OR trying to win him back by blowing up social media with her "girl's nights".

    Anyways. Despite her apparent craziness from her breakup I am still into her alot. I think we are a good match and she's gorgeous. I would love to take her on a date and then go from there with the eventuality of possibly making her my girlfriend. She's super fun, has a good job, and lives close. Any advice would be appreciated. Right now I kind of know I need to take it slow and let her come to me, but am having trouble doing that since I'm an inpatient person and summer is almost over where I live. It's also a conundrum, since she's apparently afraid to let another guy in her life or possibly trying to win back her ex I don't believe she will just out and say let's go out or make it easy for me. Ignoring her texts and getting back to her slow is a start but I need to eventually step it up. Her having a random work schedule also makes it hard because for all I know she might just use it as an excuse. She's really into music festivals and going to the same one I am in mid-September and wants to meet up there I know. I also mentioned another music festival I'm going to in September that she seems interested in, but hasn't bought a ticket because she might have work and wants to see if she knows anyone else that wants to go.

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    Default Re: Need Help Winning Over Girl Who Just Got Dumped By BF Of 4 Years

    The real question is, do you want to be the rebound or do you want to have a shot? If you want to be her BF then give her some space. Girls take waaaaaay longer than guys to get over past relationships. Guys will move on in generally 6 months time - which I find quite hilarious and sad. No time to work through stuff. Bottled emotions anyone?! Sounds like fun 10 years on... not. Just give her space and check out other chicks for now.
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    Default Re: Need Help Winning Over Girl Who Just Got Dumped By BF Of 4 Years

    Quote Originally Posted by mystique View Post
    The real question is, do you want to be the rebound or do you want to have a shot? If you want to be her BF then give her some space. Girls take waaaaaay longer than guys to get over past relationships. Guys will move on in generally 6 months time - which I find quite hilarious and sad. No time to work through stuff. Bottled emotions anyone?! Sounds like fun 10 years on... not. Just give her space and check out other chicks for now.
    Going for BF. I realize I gotta give her space but it's hard to do.

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    Default Re: Need Help Winning Over Girl Who Just Got Dumped By BF Of 4 Years

    Randomly met up with her tonight at a bar. She was with two girl friends and unfortunately I had to show solo because my friends all have work but I said fuck it.

    We talk very briefly, before she leaves she comes up to me and gives me a hug and expresses the wish to hangout with me ASAP. Then she starts making out with me. Then she leaves.

    After that she texts me a few minutes later just telling me she's really into me. Small talk. She invites me over, then flakes out due to time and distance. I push a little. She resists. i leave it.

    What the fuck. Is this girl just into me while drunk or what? At the bar she mentioned I never hit her up which i straight up told her I do.

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    Default Re: Need Help Winning Over Girl Who Just Got Dumped By BF Of 4 Years

    Quote Originally Posted by freestylpolaris View Post
    Randomly met up with her tonight at a bar. She was with two girl friends and unfortunately I had to show solo because my friends all have work but I said fuck it.

    We talk very briefly, before she leaves she comes up to me and gives me a hug and expresses the wish to hangout with me ASAP. Then she starts making out with me. Then she leaves.

    After that she texts me a few minutes later just telling me she's really into me. Small talk. She invites me over, then flakes out due to time and distance. I push a little. She resists. i leave it.

    What the fuck. Is this girl just into me while drunk or what? At the bar she mentioned I never hit her up which i straight up told her I do.
    Nice. Ummm yes she's into you. She's chasing you dude... ultimate!

    Don't push and just wait and see what happens for now. Kinda sounds like she's playing you lol
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    Default Re: Need Help Winning Over Girl Who Just Got Dumped By BF Of 4 Years

    She's playing me? As in not really interested but acting it? I get back from my 10 day international trip tomorrow. Have not contacted her. Not a huge deal but she liked a facebook picture of mine from the trip and snapchatted me while drunk 1x. Means shes keeping up with my pics and snapchats and maybe getting a little jealous/excited for me to get back. I plan on seeing when she's free the day after I get back since I'll still have a few days off work.


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