I met her in a bar about 2 months ago. As I left and got in my friend's car I hear a voice yell "Bye cutie!!!" I tell myself I'm an idiot for not getting her number at the bar but chalk it up and tell myself I'll see her again sometime or just do the typical Facebook add. She beats me to it. Adds me on Facebook that night around 3am and sends me a message telling me to text her. I do. Some small talk and flirting, she falls asleep.
I figure great, this girl is definitely into me, try to get her to come out with me to a party happening that weekend after some small talk but no reply, just goes cold on me. This goes on and off for about a month or so and I finally give up, delete her number, and move on. Then she sees me at a music festival and text messages me a few days later telling me she wasn't sure it was me but wish she would have said Hey. I figure she's going to pull the same shit again so I keep it short and try to ignore her.
Then she texts me 4x in a row throughout 2 different days because I didn't reply to her right away, 2x at 12:30am and 1:00am when she knows I have work in the early mornings. So things start to click and I now know she craves attention and goes nuts when it's not given to her. I continue some small talk throughout the weekend, tell her I'm going to a baseball game and she's welcome to come with. She seemed interested but has work. Ok whatever. I give it no more attention and continue partying. Since I didn't reply to her again she shoots me another text and that's where things currently stand. I plan on getting back to her late tomorrow to make her wait a bit, maybe even get lucky and she goes so stir-crazy she texts me again. Side-note, I hate texting games, and making a girl feel like shit but at this point it's the only thing working with her.
I did some Facebook creeping and found out her and her boyfriend dated for 4 years, their entire college career. I also find out they are not friends anymore even on Facebook so the breakup must've been bad. Things start to make more sense. She's afraid to let another guy in, doing the typical "go out with the girls/girls nights/I don't need a man in my life to be happy" OR trying to win him back by blowing up social media with her "girl's nights".
Anyways. Despite her apparent craziness from her breakup I am still into her alot. I think we are a good match and she's gorgeous. I would love to take her on a date and then go from there with the eventuality of possibly making her my girlfriend. She's super fun, has a good job, and lives close. Any advice would be appreciated. Right now I kind of know I need to take it slow and let her come to me, but am having trouble doing that since I'm an inpatient person and summer is almost over where I live. It's also a conundrum, since she's apparently afraid to let another guy in her life or possibly trying to win back her ex I don't believe she will just out and say let's go out or make it easy for me. Ignoring her texts and getting back to her slow is a start but I need to eventually step it up. Her having a random work schedule also makes it hard because for all I know she might just use it as an excuse. She's really into music festivals and going to the same one I am in mid-September and wants to meet up there I know. I also mentioned another music festival I'm going to in September that she seems interested in, but hasn't bought a ticket because she might have work and wants to see if she knows anyone else that wants to go.